最好獲得好處的方式，就是：開口要

一般人的印象里，女性職工在向老闆要求加薪時，是比較咄咄逼人的，儘管她們因為控制不住脾氣而被拒絕的機會也比較大，但是通常並不會損及她們的工作，老闆也不會因此而對她改變了工作上應有的禮貌。她沒有損失什麼。相對的，老闆會更注意到她平日的工作績效，因而可能在下次績效評估與調薪作業時，給予更平等的對待。

因此，無論你是男性或是女性，想要得到什麼好處，最好的方式就是：開口要。

只要你心平靜氣的說出你希望獲得好處的理由，即使你不會讓人感受到你是客氣的人，但是這是你獲得好處的唯一機會。

要期待別人能夠欣賞你感激你，主動給你好處，那麼你未免也太過迂腐了。

The best way to get the benefit is to ask 

The general impression is that female workers are more aggressive when they ask for a raise from their boss, and although they are more likely to be rejected because they can't control their temper, they usually don't hurt their jobs. The boss won't change her due courtesies to her at work. She didn't lose anything. By contrast, the boss is more aware of her usual performance and may be given more equal treatment in the next performance appraisal and pay adjustment exercise. 

So, whether you're male or female, the best way to get what you want is to ask for it.
As long as you're calm enough to say why you want the benefit, even if you don't feel like you're a polite person, it's your only chance to get the benefit. 

It is too pedantic to expect others to appreciate you and offer to benefit you.