你可以更自信一些

你如果個性就是含蓄矜持的人，你大概會被提醒在工作上要多一些自信、更主動、有決斷力。但是，這樣做不符合你的天性，你要如何提出你需要什麼，你想要什麼呢？

請參考下列作法：

1. 從建立一個成功故事開始。要了解自己的風格是否能適應工作需求，你可以花一些時間來評估自己，并試著建立成功的感受。例如，在開會前，問自己：“我要得到什麼？”會議后，再評估結果如何。
2. 設定小目標。給自己設定幾個小目標。例如，要求自己在一周內要與不同的同事做三次艱難的會話。或是，安排自己在下次會議中，要領先帶頭發言。
3. 擴充人脈。如果你的含蓄矜持是因為你感覺與同事相處會不舒服，那麼你可以考慮與別的部門的同事多接觸、多互動，這樣讓你可以比較願意多說話。

You can be more confident

If your personality is a reserved person, you will probably be reminded to be more confident, proactive and decisive in your work. However, it is not in your nature to do so. How do you propose what you need and what do you want?

Please refer to the following practices:

1. Start with a success story. To understand whether your style fits your job needs, you can spend some time evaluating yourself and trying to build a sense of success. For example, before a meeting, ask yourself, "What do I want to get?" After the meeting, we will reassess the results.
2. Set small goals. Set yourself a few small goals. For example, ask yourself to have three difficult conversations with different colleagues in a week. Or, arrange for yourself to take the lead in the next meeting.
3. Expanding the network. If your reserve is because you feel uncomfortable with your colleagues, then you can consider contacting and interacting with colleagues in other departments so that you are more willing to talk.

建立更有效的人脈網

在當今的社會與企業組織中，有正確的人脈網對你是很關鍵的。但是，許多人會浪費時間在維護對你幫助不大的人脈網。 

請用以下的準則來建立對你有價值的人脈網： 

1. 分析判斷。你必須弄清楚和那些人互動往來是會對你有幫助的。注意，你所需要的是人脈的品質，而非人脈網的人數。
2. 多樣化。你的人脈網中的朋友應該盡可能是多樣化的。如此，能夠提供給你不同的人生經驗與觀點，建立起你更廣闊的的視角。
3. 長期關係。但是，有些人對你短期不能產生明顯幫助，但是其人性本質不錯，也有發展潛力，若是你能夠讓他感受到你的友誼，給予適當的關切，將來他或許會給你預期不到的好回饋。
4. 社會形象。你的人脈網不應該是完全功利導向的，它應該也有助於提升你的社會形象。因此，你不僅要關注在你的人脈網中，那些人會對你有幫助，你也必須做出適當的貢獻，讓那些認為你有價值的人，願意多接近你，也願意為你推廣。

Building a more effective network of contacts

In today's social and business organizations, having the right network is critical to you. However, many people will waste time maintaining the network that is not helpful to you.

Please use the following guidelines to build a network of contacts that are valuable to you.

1. Analysis and judgement. You must make sure that interacting with those people will help you. Note that what you need is the quality of the connections, not the number of people in the network.
2. Diversification. Your friends in your network should be as diverse as possible. So, it can provide you with different life experiences and perspectives, and build a broader perspective.
3. Long-term relationship. However, some people can't help you obviously in the short term, but they have good human nature and potential for development. If you can make him feel your friendship and give him appropriate concern, he may give you unexpected good feedback in the future.
4. Social image. Your network should not be entirely utilitarian, it should also help to enhance your social image. Therefore, you should not only focus on your network, those people will help you, you must also make appropriate contributions, so that those who think you are valuable, willing to approach you, but also willing to promote for you.

除非你將它當成是工作的部份，否則不會有你的個人品牌

最近經常看到許多推廣人人應該建立個人品牌的文章。包含你是否知道自己的故事？你如何管理你的個人品牌？你如何推廣你的個人品牌？等等，等等。

這些討論的問題是，你將馬車擺在馬前面了！

正確的方式是，你必須真正關心它，用心的去經營它。將建立個人品牌當成是你工作中的一個重要部份。也就是說，你可以運用各種策略與手段來建立你的個人品牌，但是，如果你根本就弄不清楚你和其他人有和不同，你的個人特色是什麼，你就無從建立起你的個人品牌。

建立個人品牌，必須是你的承諾，而不是當成花瓶來供養。

Unless you regard it as part of your job, you will not have your personal brand

Recently, I have seen many articles promoting everyone's personal brand. Do you know your own story? How do you manage your personal brand? How do you promote your personal brand? Wait, wait.

The problem with these discussions is that you put the cart ahead of the horse!

The right way is to really care about it and run it with your heart. Personal brand will be an important part of your work. That is to say, you can use various strategies and means to build your personal brand, but if you simply don't know what you are different from others and what your personal characteristics are, you can't build your personal brand.

Building a personal brand must be your promise, not a vase.

如何與遠端的同事保持聯繫？

要和一名平常不能在一起喝咖啡、聊天的遠端同事一起工作，是很挑戰的。不過，你還是可以和遠端的同事保持良好而成功的合作關係。

以下的作法可以參考：

1. 指出共同面對的挑戰。提出雙方所面對的困難，說出大家的工作目標，並且表示你將會進行溝通。
2. 運用科技工具。運用電腦、手機，以及Skype、Facebook、Line等通信工具。使用雲端存儲系統，例如Google Doc.等系統，讓群組團隊成員可以即時的編輯更新文件，或是作出評論。
3. 注意防止錯誤的溝通。你最好設定定期的電話對話，以及列明你們將要討論與分享的重要內容。即使是一些錯誤的信息，例如傳出有團隊成員中家中有喪事，若是錯誤，就要澄清；或是，對於正式工作上的事情，例如，對專案項目的進度有誤會，也要再說清楚，并作書面確認。

How to keep in touch with colleagues at the far end?

It's challenging to work with a distant colleague who usually can't have coffee or chat together. However, you can still maintain a good and successful relationship with your distant colleagues.

The following practices can be referred to:

1. Point out common challenges. Put forward the difficulties faced by both sides, state your work objectives, and indicate that you will communicate.
2. Use scientific and technological tools. Use computers, mobile phones, Skype, Facebook, Line and other communication tools. Using cloud storage systems, such as Google Doc., allows team members to edit and update files or comment instantly.
3. Pay attention to preventing wrong communication. You'd better set up regular telephone conversations and list the important things you will discuss and share. Even if there is some wrong information, such as a funeral at home among team members, it should be clarified if there is a mistake; or when there is a misunderstanding about the progress of a project, it should be clarified again and confirmed in writing.

停止你的鴕鳥態度

當面對艱難的挑戰時，多數人會很自然的期待會發生一些意外來阻止這個挑戰來臨，並且將它當成自己不需要去面對這個挑戰的藉口。然而，如此自我設限的鴕鳥態度只會讓你難以挖掘出你的潛力，不能達到目標。

以下是讓你停止鴕鳥作風的方法：

1. 注意警訊。這包含了你的退縮，有一列藉口清單，或是過度強調潛在的困難。
2. 關注如何達到目標，而非找回避的藉口。多用“假如這樣…”和“如果有了這些….”的創意方式來説明你思考如何能夠解決問題。例如，如果你認為因為缺乏某種技能，你可能因而會失敗，那麼找出方法來獲得這個必要的技能。
3. 管理好你的負面情緒。當面對障礙的時候（總是會有一些困難的），你很容易失望或是生氣。這個時候，控制好自己的情緒，對自己好一些，關注在你有能力做出改變的努力上。

Stop your ostrich attitude

When facing a difficult challenge, most people will naturally expect to happen to stop this challenge, and will it as they don't need to face the challenge of excuse. However, such a self handicapping ostrich attitude will only let you to dig out your potential, you can not reach the goal.

Here are some ways to stop your ostrich work:

1. Note warning. This includes your withdraw back. There are always excuses, excessive emphasis on the potential difficulties.
2. Focus on how to achieve the goal, rather than looking for excuses for avoiding. "If this..." and "If these...". The creative ways to explain you are thinking about how to solve the problem. For example, if you think that because of the lack of a certain skill, you may fail, then, find a way to get this the necessary skills.
3. Manage your negative emotions. When faced with obstacles (there will always be some difficult), you can easily disappointed or angry. This time, control their emotions, for their own good, have the ability to make changes in your attention to.

審慎接受一名學徒

能夠成為導師是榮譽的。但是，你不可能將每個年輕人都納入你的羽翼之下。

問以下三個問題來決定你是否要接受一名學徒：

1. 這名學徒的企圖心如何？評估一下這名學徒想要成功的企圖心有多大。 如果你想要有成功的導師關係，他必須有企圖心，可以受到激勵。
2. 距離成功目標有多遠？這門學徒目前的經歷資質與他想要達到的目標，距離有多遠？你也許必須考慮安排一名中繼者，在你接手為導師前，先補上這個差距。
3. 我有足夠的經驗與時間嗎？確認你有足夠的知識與時間來指導。

Accept an apprentice cautiously

It is honorable to become a mentor. But you can't put every young person under your wings.

Ask the following three questions to decide if you want to accept an apprentice:

1. What is the ambition of this apprentice? Assess how ambitious the apprentice wants to succeed. If you want to have a successful mentoring relationship, he must be ambitious and motivated.
2. How far is it from success? What is the distance between the apprenticeship's current qualifications and the goals he wants to achieve? You may have to consider arranging a relay to fill the gap before you take over as a mentor.
3. Do I have enough experience and time? Make sure you have enough knowledge and time to guide.

認知你的壞行為來改進它

每個人或多或少會有一些壞習慣、壞行為，你可以用很短的時間就改進它，但是相當的困難。將這些諸如容易和人爭論、愛批評別人，等等壞習慣改正過來，卻是很必要的。

第一步是你要先能夠認知你的壞行為的反應癥兆。如果你不能認知這樣的信癥兆，你無法改正你的壞習慣。想想看，通常是哪些事情會激怒你？在你做出不好行為之前，通常事前有哪些警告癥兆會出現？

然後想想看，當這些警告癥兆出現時，有哪些作法可以讓你不會受到影響？讓你後續的不好反應不會連鎖發生。你這樣多做幾次，你會愈能夠控制自己。

當警告癥兆出現時，你可以先深呼吸，讓自己冷靜下來。然後，與其受到激怒動氣，不如做一些比較能夠產生正面價值的行為。

你可以改變你的壞習慣、壞行為，關鍵在於你能夠認知它會發生的癥兆。

Recognize your bad behavior to improve it

Everyone has more or less bad habits and bad behavior. You can improve it in a very short time, but it's quite difficult. It is necessary to correct these bad habits, such as easy to argue with others, criticize others, and so on.

The first step is to be able to recognize your reaction to bad behavior first. If you can't recognize such symptoms, you can't correct your bad habits. Think about it. What are the things that usually irritate you? Before you do bad behavior, what warning signs do you usually have?

Then think about what you can do without warning signs? Let your follow-up bad reaction will not occur chain. The more you do it a few times, the more you can control yourself.

When a warning sign appears, you can take a deep breath and calm yourself down. Then, rather than angry, do some other positive value behaviors.

You can change your bad habits and bad behavior. The key is that you can recognize the symptoms that will happen.