將晦氣留在公司，不帶回家

每個人都有過在辦公室裡整天都做不一件對的事情的時候。要避免你回到家裡還在繼續煩心，試著這麼做：

1. 將心靈清乾淨。深呼吸幾口，想想一些對你關鍵的公務之外的事情。也許如此做，你的思緒就已經離開了辦公室，而將鳥事都留在後頭了。
2. 撿一些容易的事情來做。與其處理不來複雜而煩人的事情，不如找找一些輕鬆容易的事情來做，例如，送出一份報告、清理一下資產負債表、或是回復幾封可以簡單應付的郵件。就是去清理幾件待辦事項，讓自己可以感到至少有些進度、有幾分成就。
3. 起立，立即離開。當你完成了這些工作，不要再去查看還有哪些待閱郵件，或是還要逛到別人的辦公桌邊，不要留下空間會讓你再招惹來一些新的事情，就是立即離開辦公室，不要拖泥帶水。

Leave bad luck in the company, not home

Everyone has time to do something wrong in the office all day. To prevent you from returning home and continue to bother, try to do this:

1. Clear your mind. Take a deep breath and think of something else that is critical to your official duties. Perhaps so, your mind has left the office and left the birds behind.
2. Pick up some easy things to do. Instead of dealing with less complicated and annoying tasks, find something easy to do, such as sending out a report, cleaning up a balance sheet, or answering a few simple emails. It is to clear up a few to-do items so that you can feel at least some progress and some achievements.
3. Stand up and leave immediately. When you're done, don't check out any more emails or browse around other people's desks. Don't leave room for something new. Just leave the office immediately and don't mess about.

如何幫助人發洩情緒？

當有人在咆哮時，真不知道應該怎麼辦。有些人會出面嘗試提供建議，而更多人就會坐著保持沉默。這些做法，其實很少能夠幫助當事人脫離負面的情緒并往前去實際解決問題（這是她此刻最需要的）。

以後，當有人向你抱怨她面臨的困難時，嘗試向她問一些問題。先問她最感到挫折的是那些事情。但是，要注意，如果你問的是她的感受是什麼，這樣做好像你高高在上。相對的，問她如何感到挫折，會減少你在做價值判斷的氛圍。

靜靜的聽，以便了解她所面臨的問題的真相。一旦她發洩過情緒后，她會比較冷靜的想應該如何去解決問題。

通常，當人們處於負面情緒時，她通常不太容易聽進他人的意見，還不如讓她自己說出來應該怎麼辦。

How to help people vent their emotions

When someone is growling, I really don't know what to do. Some people will try to offer advice, and more people will remain silent. These practices, in fact, rarely help the client out of negative emotions and move forward to solve practical problems (this is what she needs most at the moment).

Later, when someone complains to you about the difficulties she is facing, try to ask her some questions. First ask her what she is most frustrated about. But be aware that if you ask her what she feels, it's as if you are high above. By contrast, asking her how to feel frustrated will reduce your atmosphere of value judgment.

Listen quietly so as to understand the truth of the problems she faces. Once she has given vent to her emotions, she will be more calm in thinking about how to solve the problem.

Usually, when people are in a negative mood, she is less likely to listen to other people's opinions, so she might as well tell herself what to do.

以正面態度面對挫折壓力

我曾經數次對自己患了糖尿病，久久無法治愈而極度失望。這樣的負面心理狀態，好幾次在不知不覺中，加深了自己的病情，甚至導致突發性的激變，讓我瀕臨死亡境界。

在2014年春節前，我在不自覺中昏迷休克，幸好兒子及時發現，將我送到國泰醫院急救。我醒過來后，才知道這樣幾乎會在昏迷中死亡的可怕。

一方面感謝上天給了我活下去的機會，也讓我體悟到無論多麼困難、機會如何渺茫，自己要有堅強的意志來對抗病魔。自己必須積極參與救助自己，不能夠全部依靠醫生。在奮鬥的過程中，任何的體悟與進步，都是撿來的，都是人生新的收穫。

同樣的，在人生其他方面的過程中，也會不時出現各種挫折，會讓你情緒惡劣，感到無望。這樣的負面情緒，如同生理病變，同樣會讓你陷入更困難的局面。

你不妨將挫折與壓力，看待成是挑戰與讓你成長的機會，以正面的態度面對它。你如果不斷感覺挫折，負面的情緒會真的帶你進入絕望的局面。如果你看待壓力是發展的機會，你就會快樂、會健康起來，至少能夠增加你抵抗壓力的能耐。

在你願意不斷嘗試的過程中，你一定會找到可以調整自己，面對困難的作法。

Facing frustration pressure with positive attitude

I have been very disappointed with my diabetes for a long time. This negative state of mind, several times unconsciously, deepened his illness, and even led to sudden cataclysm, so that I was on the verge of death.

Before the Spring Festival in 2014, I unconsciously coma shock, but fortunately my son promptly found that I was sent to Cathay Pacific Hospital first aid. When I woke up, I knew that I would almost die in a coma.

On the one hand, thank God for giving me the chance to live, but also let me realize that no matter how difficult, how slim the opportunity, I have to have a strong will to fight the disease. You must take an active part in helping yourself and not rely solely on doctors. In the process of struggle, any understanding and progress are picked up. They are all new gains in life.

Similarly, in other areas of life, there are occasional setbacks that can make you feel bad and hopeless. Such negative emotions, like physical changes, will also put you in a more difficult situation.

Think of setbacks and pressures as challenges and opportunities to grow and face them in a positive way. If you continue to feel frustrated, negative emotions will really lead you to despair. If you look at stress as an opportunity for development, you will be happy, healthy, and at least increase your resistance to stress.

In the process of trying, you will find ways to adjust yourself and face difficulties.