建立一個使你的工作更有目的性的藍圖

你很容易活在一片混亂的日子中，無法清晰地說出你所做的事情。而保持專注和高效的最有效的策略之一是為你工作的每一個時刻帶來目標。

首先要理解並闡明你的日常工作是如何與你的個人目標和組織目標相聯系的。然後使用這些資訊創建一個藍圖，在其中您可以確定哪些任務是關鍵的，哪些可以等待。為每個任務做時間估算，製定你的工作，這樣你就知道你應該集中精力在什麼時候。

最後，說出會讓你分心的事情，並瞭解它們的根本原因，這樣你就可以抓住自己，並把注意力集中到優先順序上的那些任務上。

知道你在做什麼，如何能讓你的工作更有意義？

Create a blueprint that will make your work more purposeful

It's easy to live on a chaotic day, unable to say exactly what you're doing. One of the effective strategies to stay focused and productive is to bring your goals into every moment of your work.

The first is to understand and clarify your daily work is how to relate to your personal goals and organizational goals. Then create a blueprint for the use of the information, in which you can determine, which task is the key, which can wait. Make time for each task estimation for your work. Then, you'll see what priority item you should concentrate on.

Finally, talk about things that distract you and understand the root causes of them, so that you can catch yourself and focus on those tasks at your priority level.

Knowing what you're doing, how can you make your job more meaningful?

不要指望你的老闆來解决所有的衝突

要將團隊中的衝突問題扔給老闆來解決，很容易。

但是，如果是因為不能就如何安排優先項目或是要在哪一個期限完成工作達成一致，而有衝突，何不問問實際項目負責人，按照步驟來逐一討論？是否所需要的資訊都完備了？各種可能的方案都經過充分討論了？

如果你能解决問題而不總是涉及上級，這對每個人——你，你的同事，你的老闆都是有益的。

不要把衝突視為一種煩惱，它會導致焦慮和疏離感，但卻是成長的機會。讓團隊中的每個人公開討論任何分歧，然後建立正確的行為模型。平靜地與團隊分享你的想法，即使是在同事之間發生觀點歧異時，也不要相互指責。

最後，將你們之間達成的共識，與差異點，整理好，呈給你們的老闆，邀請他一起討論，看看是否思考不夠周圓？必要時，才請他裁奪。

Don't expect your boss to settle all conflicts

It's easy to drop a conflict problem in the team to the boss.

However, if it is not because of how to arrange project priority, or not agreed on a project completion date, and caused a conflict, why not ask the actual person in charge of the project. And, according to the steps to discuss and check to see if information needed ready or not? All possible plan options have been fully discussed?

It's good for everyone - you, your colleagues, your boss, if you can solve the problem without always involving the superior.

Don't put the conflict as a kind of trouble, it will cause anxiety and alienation, but it is a chance to grow. Let everyone in the team to publicly discuss any differences, and then establish the correct model of the behavior. Calmly to share your ideas with the team, even in view of differences between colleagues. Don’t finger point to each other.

Finally, consolidate your reached consensus and differences, submit to your boss and invite him to join discussion, to see if there is thoughtful consideration. Then, if necessary, ask him to make decision.

選擇合適的地方做敏感的討論

當你試圖解决與同事的衝突時，會面的地點會影響你雙方是否能够暢所欲言，表達任何情感，並達成決議。

選擇一個雙方都能夠感到舒服的地點。理想的情况下，你希望是在一個可以私下談話的地方。也許你可以選擇一個看來對雙方都舒適的會議室，或是到附近的咖啡廳來見面。或者你們可以到外面走走，換個風景。

避免選擇給你或你的同事具有個別優勢地方。例如，如果你請他進入到你熟悉而且你可以坐在你的桌子後面來展現你的權力優勢，就會讓他感覺侷促不安，反之亦然。若是你選擇在辦公室某個地方，小心隔墻有耳。

Choose A Right Place for Sensitive Discussions

When you try to resolve a conflict with your colleagues, the location of the meeting will affect whether you can speak freely, express any emotion, and reach a resolution.

It’s better to arrange a place both sides feel comfortable. Ideally, you would like to be in a place can take a private conversation. Maybe you can choose a meeting room where both feel comfortable, or a nearby cafe to meet. Or you can go out for a walk, a change of scenery.

Avoid to arrange to let either you or your colleague can take personal advantages. For example, if you invite him into your personal office where you are sitting behind your table and showing your power advantage, will let him feel embarrassed, and vice versa. If you choose a place in the office, b  be aware of eavesdroppers.

當你不同意某人給你的回饋時，不要立即回應

無論是你在績效評估時，或是你在徵求別人的意見時，所獲得的回饋意見，你認為是錯誤的， 你認為那個人不了解情況！他們真的不知道你在做什麼。而且，他們給你的的意見甚至不可行。

在你獲得的是你不同意的回饋意見時，會令你發狂。

然而，儘管你可以有憑有據的做出反駁，最好還是不要直接做出回應。

給自己時間去理解對方想要表達的意思。問清楚的問題，例如：“當你說很有「創意」時，你能夠說明的更清楚嗎？”你也可以問一個值得信賴的朋友，這個回饋意見是否真實。一旦你完全理解了這條資訊並花了時間考慮它，那麼你就可以决定如何回應了。

When You Disagree with Someone's Feedback, Don't Respond Immediately

Whether you are in the performance evaluation, or you consult others, the feedback you get, you think is wrong, you think that people don't understand! They really don't know what you're doing. And the advice they give even not feasible.

A feedback you don’t agree will drive you crazy.

However, although you can make a counter response with abundant evidence, it’s better don’t do it right away.

Give yourself time to understand each other to express. Ask questions such as: "When you say it is "creative ", can you explain more clearly?" You can also ask a trusted friend, the feedback opinion is true or not. Once you fully understand this information, you can take time to consider it. Then, you can decide how to respond.

如果你在工作上感到被排斥，尋求人脈支持

當你感覺到在工作上被排斥了，例如沒有被邀請參加會議，或沒有接到電子郵件，或你提出的建議被忽略擱置了，你會很痛苦。但是，不要自己瞎猜測，胡思亂想，那樣會讓你感覺更糟。

你應該向你熟悉信任，或是與相關議題有接觸的人，了解情況，請求援助。也許有一個解釋，你沒有被邀請參加一個會議，是因為所討論的議題和你沒有直接相關。去了解其他人是否也有同樣的遭遇？去和他們談談，也許你們的境遇是類似的。如果是如此，你會比較清楚認識了真實的事情，而不是你自己才有這樣的情緒。

最後，找一些重視你可以有貢獻的人，多花點時間和他們在一起。積極的和你的人脈交往會對你的自我價值和信心有很大的幫助。

Seek Social Support If You Feel Ostracized at Work

When you feel excluded in the work, for example, was not invited to attend a meeting, or did not receive e-mail, or your advice be ignored or was hold, you will be very painful. But don't just blind speculation. That will make you make blind and disorderly conjectures, feeling worse.

You should go to those you familiar or trust, or people have contact with relevant issues. To understand the situation, and request assistance you needed. There may be some reasonable explanation: You are not invited to attend a meeting, because the topic of discussion not relate with your field directly. Dose other people also facing similar trouble? If so, you will get more clearer picture about the real thing, not just you have such a mood.

Finally, find people who value what you can contribute and spend more time with them. A positive relationship with your network can be very helpful to your self-worth and confidence.