想要改變壞習慣，去抱怨一個虛擬的替罪羔羊

有的時候我們總會做一些我們不應該做的事，例如吃垃圾食物、不斷瀏覽手機、拖延時間，等等。

這個時候，你可以找一個虛擬的替罪羔羊來抱怨，把你的憤怒和焦慮都指向他， 說：“都是你害我吃個不停、看個不停、上班遲到。”你因為討厭他，而會想要對抗他。讓這樣想要對抗這個討厭的傢伙的心理，幫你戒除你的壞習慣。

但是，這個你討厭的傢伙必須是虛擬的，而非真實的，例如你的兄弟姐妹、配偶、老闆，否則，就變成是你在推諉責任了，而不會真的改善你的壞習慣了。

Want to change the bad habits, to complain about a virtual scapegoat

Sometimes we do something we shouldn't do, such as eating junk food, browsing cell phones, delaying time, and so on.

To change your bad habit, you can find a virtual one to complain, your anger and anxiety are pointing to him, said: "It is you who make me eat not to stop, always browsing, and being late for work." You hate him, and want to confront him. Let such confrontation mind to help you get rid of your bad habits.

But be aware that such guy you hate must be virtual, rather than real, such as your brother, spouse, boss, otherwise, you are just blame, but not really improve your bad habits.

當你自責懊惱的時候，頂回去，安慰自己

當客戶或同事給你强硬的回饋，你會泰然處之。但是當你自責而懊惱，自我強烈懷疑的時候，你惶惶不安。

你不要忽略，假裝沒有發生過，而應該頂回去。例如：你內心的聲音說：“這件事我處理的糟透了，”你可以回答，“你知道什麼？沒有人每次都能夠做到完美的。”然後，你可以安慰自己，“沒有關係，我下次一定會做好的。”

當你自責的時候，要安慰自己。

這樣做，一開始可能會不自在，甚至彆扭，但你會覺得比較舒坦，可以讓你恢復自信。

When you blame yourself for being upset, respond back and comfort yourself

When a client or colleague gives you a tough time, you can stride it. But when you blame annoyed, self strongly suspected, you are on tenterhooks.

Don't ignore it, and pretend it didn't happen. You should respond back to it. For example: your inner voice said: "This matter I deal badly," you can answer, "You know what? No one can be perfect all the time." then, you can comfort yourself, "It doesn't matter. I'll do better next time."

When you reproach yourself, comfort yourself.

In doing so, you may feel awkward at first, but you'll feel more comfortable and can restore your confidence.