練習讓自己細心

一個人能夠細心會有許多好處。然而許多人就是不能細心，也不知道該如何做？

你可以克服障礙來練習讓自己能夠細心。你可以要求自己在連續一個月的時間中，每天都撥出10分鐘來訓練自己能夠細心。

在這10分鐘里，讓自己專心只做一件事，而且你可以關注自己內在的心緒，是否還有衝動去想別的事？只要感覺到自己分心了，立即收回，繼續關注你正在做的工作，並且感受你專注細心的心理狀態。

如果實在不能那麼專注細心，可以事前就放個你聽了可以愉悅而不會分心的背景音樂。這樣的背景音樂可以幫助你沉靜心情，卻不會讓你心緒分叉。

將你每天練習細心的成果做個比較，看你細心工作與不細心工作能夠完成的工作量與工作品質。例如，在這10分鐘，你可以寫出多少文字，文句是否優美？

如此，你就可以感受能夠細心的好處，而且在這樣的成功基礎上，穩定地讓你繼續能夠細心。

Practice to be careful

There are many advantages to being careful. However, many people can not careful, do not know how to do it?

You can overcome obstacles to practice so that you can be careful. You can ask yourself to set aside 10 minutes a day for a month in a row to train yourself to be careful.

In these10 minutes, let yourself focus on one thing, and you can focus on your inner state of mind. Is there any impulse to think about something else? As long as you feel distracted, take it back immediately stay focused on what you are doing, and feel your mental state of concentration and care.

If you really can't be so attentive, you can put in a background music that you can enjoy without distraction. This kind of background music can help you calm down, but will not let your mood split.

Compare the results that you practice carefully every day to see the amount of work you can do with your careful work and the quality of your work. For example, in these 10 minutes, how many words can you write, is the text beautiful?

In this way, you can feel the benefits of being careful, and on the basis of such success, make sure that you continue to be careful.

在人際交往中，做好自己

去弄清楚你想要從你預備交往的對象聽到什麼，以及你如何去讓他對你有好印象， 這似乎是好的人際交往策略。但是，過度吹捧自己與過度諂媚會有負面反效果的。

為什麼？因為，當你刻意地要留給別人深刻印象時，會提高你的焦慮，而且讓你失去了獨立自主的空間。

所以，不要為了取悅他人而改變自己的行為。相對的，清楚說你的主張。說你有興趣的主題。問你好奇的問題。

不要太過在意別人對你的印象。但是，你也不要太過壓迫別人接受你的觀點。建立和你志同道合的朋友圈。

輕鬆的和你有共同興趣的朋友交流，自然可以讓別人對你有好印象。

Be yourself in interpersonal communication

To figure out what you want to hear from the person you’re about to socialize with, and how can you make him feel about you, seems like a good interpersonal strategy.. However, excessive flattery can be counterproductive.

Why? Because when you deliberately want to impress others, will increases your anxiety, and makes you lose your independence.

So, don't change your behavior to please others. In contrast, state your opinion clearly. About the subject you are interested in. Ask your curious question.

Don't take your impression too seriously. But don't push others too hard to. accept your point of view. Build a circle of like-minded friends.

Easily communicate with friends who share your interests, and naturally make others have a good impression of you.

設定你想要達成的目標

如果你不喜歡做某件事，這就不太可能你會將它設定為你的目標，你也不太可能將它發展為你的專業能力。與其專注在你“應該做的事”，不如選擇關乎你未來發展的目標上。

你可以問你自己：

1. 如果我今年必須達成一個重要的目標，那會是什麼？
2. 當我想這個目標并達成它時，我會興奮嗎？
3. 在我達成這個目標時，究竟是因為我認為它很有趣而且重要，還是因為它滿足了他人的要求期待？

回答上面的問題，并得出可滿足你個人野心的發展目標。

Set goals that you want to achieve

If you don't like to do something, it's unlikely that you will set it as your goal or you develop it into your professional ability. Instead of focusing on what you should do, it's better to choose your future goals.

You can ask yourself:

1.          If I had to achieve an important goal this year, what would it be?

2.          Do I get excite when I think about this goal and achieve it?

3.          When I achieve this goal, is it because I think it is interesting and important, or because it meets the expectations of others?

Answer the above questions and come up with development goals that meet your personal ambitions.

設定你面對緊張的標準反應

每個人在工作上都會有緊張的時候。但是，一個人是否會緊張，取決於他如何做反應。幸好，你可以自己決定要如何做反應。你可以訓練自己如何面的挑戰做出反應。

你可以先回想，你過去在哪些事情上，能夠當下解決問題。例如，上班會遲到，你有沒有警覺而提早出門？或是，你正在忙，卻接到電話，你是如何回應的？找出幾項你能夠成功面對挑戰，解決問題的經驗。回想你的反應模式，讓這樣的經驗成為你對應緊張的模式。

將這樣的成功模式，引導你面對新的挑戰，儘管你不一定能夠解決信的問題，至少你知道該如何控制你的緊張情緒。

Set your standard response to stress

Everyone gets nervous at work. But whether a person is nervous or not depends on how he responds. Fortunately, you can decide for yourself how to react. You can train yourself to responds to challenges.

You can think about what you've been able to solve at the moment. For example, if you're late for work, are you alert and going out early? Or, how did you respond when you were busy and received a call?

Identify a few experiences that you can successfully face challenges and solve problems. Think back to your pattern of action and let this experience become your mode of responding to stress.

Take this successful pattern and lead you to new challenges, although you may not be able to solve later problems, at least you know how to manage your nervousness.