不要讓壓力導致錯誤的決定

當你處於壓力之下時，很難清晰地思考。你的血壓和心跳加快，腎上腺素和皮質醇充斥你的身體，你的求生本能會影響你的決定。為了避免在壓力下做出錯誤的決定，注意你的身體症狀。

我們都有一個內在的“瞭望台”來幫助我們監控我們的反應。進入你大腦的那一部分，尋找身體的感覺或情緒，這表明你的壓力正在上升：你的胃緊繃，或焦慮或恐慌的感覺。

通過注意這些反應，你可以避免魯莽行事。例如，當你收到一封煩人的郵件，你發現你很生氣，你可以暫緩回復直到你冷靜下來。在行動之前，用你的“注意”來識別這些衝動。

Don’t Let Stress Lead to Bad Decisions

It’s hard to think clearly when you’re under stress. Your blood pressure and heart rate rise, adrenaline and cortisol flood your body, and your survival instincts kick in — all of which interfere with decision making. To avoid making bad decisions when you’re stressed, pay careful attention to your physical symptoms.

We all have an inner “lookout” that helps us monitor our reactions. Tap into that part of your mind and look for physical sensations or emotions that indicate your stress level is rising: a tightness in your stomach or a feeling of anxiety or panic.

By noticing these reactions, you can hold yourself back from acting rashly. For example, when you get an annoying email, and you notice that you’re irritated, you can hold off on replying until you’ve calmed down. Use your “lookout” to recognize these impulses before you act on them.

面對自戀者，表現親切些, 可以讓他節制

通常人們不喜歡與自戀者相處。自戀者或是本身容貌出眾，或是才能過人，或是擁有堅實的背後支持等他人不具備的條件，因而容易表現自戀、自負、傲人、自私、說話誇大、對他人不屑一顧。但是，他也可能因為內心有某些貧乏、缺失，有自卑心理，而刻意誇大其他他可以突出的特質。

自戀者也常是團隊里表現傑出者，是公司的明星人物，容易獲得佔有特殊資源，或是優先得到大客戶的特權。他也因而愛惜羽毛，不願意紓尊降貴。

人們會認為這樣的人會提高團隊的工作標準，讓別人工作困難。或是，人們必須分攤他不願意承擔的細微瑣事。他人在他面前，有被低視、被歧視的不舒服感覺。

然而，自戀者也因而容易受到同僚嫉妒、排擠。人們甚至會聯合起來，擺出對他不歡迎的態度。他也因而容易對別人不信任，防衛心理強。

因而，自戀的明星，也經常心理脆弱，感到心靈受傷害，成為團隊里不穩定者。他提出辭職，或要求轉換跑道的可能性比較高。

如果你是這位自戀明星的老闆，或是同事，或是想要幫助他的朋友（當然，你也可以選擇避開他），你不妨試著對他表現得親切些。

你可以這樣對他說：“我們很幸運有你參加了這個項目，尤其是有些人不夠清楚你可以在這個項目作出的貢獻。”先表現出對他的肯定與尊重。接著，你要引導他和團隊成員可以協作。將你安排參與項目的其他人與所分配的工作與工作能力，介紹給他，讓他知道妳對項目組里每個人的評價，并尊重妳的權威與尊重其他人。

另外，你可以安排自戀明星多了解其他人的貢獻與在項目中扮演的關鍵環節，以及所解決的問題。讓她體認自己不能缺少別人的協作，因而可以收斂她的自大行為。

In the face of narcissism, showing friendliness can keep him abstinence

Usually people do not like to get along with narcissism. Narcissists are either good-looking, talented or have solid backing and other people do not have the conditions, so it is easy to show narcissism, conceit, arrogance, selfishness, exaggeration, disdain for others. However, he may also deliberately exaggerate other characteristics that he can highlight because of some inner poverty, lack and inferiority complex.

Narcissists are often outstanding performers in the team. They are the stars of the company. They are easy to get special resources or privileges to get customers first. He also loved feather and was not willing to help him.

People will think that such a person will improve the working standard of the team and make others work hard. Or, people must share the trivial details that he does not want to undertake. Others feel uncomfortable and discriminated against him in front of him.

However, narcissism is also vulnerable to jealousy and exclusion from peers. People will even unite to show their unwelcome attitude towards him. He also easily distrusted others and had strong defense mentality.

As a result, narcissistic stars are often mentally fragile, feel hurt and become unstable in the team. He offered to resign or demand a higher possibility of changing the runway.

If you are the narcissistic star's boss, colleague, or friend who wants to help him (and you can choose to avoid him, of course), you might as well try to be kind to him.

You can say to him, "We are very lucky to have you on this project, especially if some people are not clear about your contribution to this project." First show his affirmation and respect. Next, you should guide him and his team members to work together. Introduce to him the other people you have assigned to participate in the project and the work and ability you have assigned. Let him know what you think of everyone in the project team and respect your authority and others.

In addition, you can arrange narcissistic stars to learn more about other people's contributions and key aspects of the project, as well as the problems they solve. Let him recognize that she can not lack the cooperation of others, so that he can restrain his arrogant behavior.

在家工作時表現出你的承諾

當您是一名在職家長時，靈活地遠程工作是很有幫助的。但是你辦公室的同事可能會懷疑你做了多少事。為了幫助老闆和同事欣賞你的工作，提供一個小而清晰的訊號，表明你的承諾和工作熱情很强。

例如，你可能在早上第一件事就發電子郵件來表明你已經起床了。或者，讓你的同事知道你已經仔細閱讀了他們的檔案：“小王，感謝這一點——第六頁的資料將有助於我們的季度審查過程。”你也可以在清晨或深夜打電話給其他時區的同事。試著每隔幾周去辦公室一次，或者在可能的時候參加特別會議。

這些策略將幫助你表現出你是多麼的勤奮和努力。

Show your commitment when working at home

It is helpful to work flexibly and remotely when you are a working parent. But your colleagues in your office may wonder how much you have done. To help your boss and colleagues appreciate your job, provide a small and clear signal that shows your commitment and enthusiasm.

For example, you may email the first thing in the morning to show that you have got up. Or let your colleagues know that you have read their files carefully: "Mr. Wang, thank you for that. The sixth page data will help our quarterly review process." You can also call colleagues in other time zones early in the morning or late at night. Try to go to the office every few weeks, or attend a special meeting at a possible time.

These strategies will help you show how hard and hard you are.

你最緊急最重要的工作是什麼？

我們都認為我們有太多的事情要做，而沒有足夠的時間去做。但如果一開始你沒有明確的優先順序，你就永遠不會覺得事情有問題。

評估你所做的工作，評估你的優先事項：哪些任務更（或更不）緊迫？哪一個是最重要的(或最不重要)？

這份清單將使你做好準備，為真正需要你關注的任務制定具體的待辦事項清單。

它也會幫助你回答這個問題：“我現在最好如何安排我的時間？”專注於那些既緊急又重要的任務，擺脫那些既不委派他們也不做的任務。

不要忽視那些重要但不那麼緊迫的任務。確保這些活動在你的待辦事項清單上，否則它們可能永遠不會完成。

What is your most urgent and most important task?

We all think we have too much to do, and we don't have enough time to do it. But if you don't have a clear priority in the first place, you'll never find something wrong.

Assess your work and assess your priorities: Which tasks are more (or less) urgent? Which is the most important (or the least important)?

This list will prepare you for specific to-do lists for tasks that really require your attention. 

It also helps you answer the question: "How do I better arrange my time now?" Focus on tasks that are both urgent and important, and get rid of the tasks that neither delegate nor do.

Don't ignore the important but not so urgent tasks. Make sure that these activities are on your to-do list, or they may never be done.