通常我們遇到與自己行事風格不同的人時，習慣上是先去了解彼此的差異，以便自己能夠改變自己的做法來配合別人，避免彼此發生齷蹉。
但是，若是只注意彼此的差異，并不會讓你們增進關係。要達到好默契，你應該找出彼此的相似之處。
例如，你們都喜歡看棒球賽，或是彼此都是關心孩子的。你可以從平常的對話中發現這些。或是，可以看看他辦公桌上有哪些相片或擺飾？有很多途徑可以發現這些相似之處。
找到這些相似之處，你可以建立起超越行事風格差異的合作作法，或是你會去不那麼在乎你們之間的差異。
How do you work with colleagues with different styles?
Usually
when we meet people who are different from ourselves, it is customary to
understand each other's differences first, so that we can change our own ways
to cooperate with others and avoid making bad negotiations with each
other.
However,
if you only pay attention to the differences, you will not improve the
relationship. In order to reach a good understanding, you should find out
the similarities between each other.
For
example, you all like to watch baseball games, or you both care about
children. You can find these in ordinary conversations. Or what
photos or decorations are on his desk? There are many ways to find these
similarities.
To
find these similarities, you can build partnerships that transcend differences
in style, or you will care less about your differences.
