給同事發信息，不要模糊

有時人們發送模糊的信息是因為他們在趕時間，可能是匆匆地發了一條簡訊，或者在往機場的路上留下了語音信箱。但如果收件人不知道全部情况，一個簡短的消息經常閱讀起來像猜謎語，他會迷惑、恐懼。要知道，如果你給同事發了一封深夜郵件，上面寫著“我們需要交談”，沒有進一步解釋，這可能引發無益的聯想。你的同事可能會想：有問題嗎？我做了什麼？她會責備我嗎？這可能會給你的同事或是你帶來精神壓力，這對你第二天要處理他們的壓力是不健康的。花額外的時間讓你的資訊清楚。在你發送信息之前，問問自己對方如何解釋你的信息或文字。如果你認為這會使他們感到苦惱，那就提供更多相關的內容。

Send messages to your colleagues, don't be vague

Sometimes people send vague message because they are in a hurry, perhaps by sending a message in hurry, or by leaving a voicemail on the way to the airport.

But if the recipient does not know all the whole story and a short message often read like riddles, he will be confused and frightened. You know, if you send a late-night email to a colleague, saying, “We need to talk”, without further explanation, this may lead to unhelpful associations. Your colleague may wonder: is there a problem? What did I do? Will she blame me? This may put stress to your colleague or you, and it’s unhealthy for you to deal with such stress the next day.

Take extra time to make your message clear. Before you send a message, ask yourself how your message will be interpreted. If you think this is going to cause them distress, then provide more relevant content.

不要讓一個優柔寡斷的老闆拖住你

遇到一個不能做出决定的老闆是很麻煩的。沒有方向，你可能不知道你的老闆期望什麼，或者如何最好地推動一個項目向前發展。你可以通過為充當一個老闆的顧問來幫助解決這個問題。幫助你的老闆權衡各種行動的利弊。提出尖銳的問題，提供相關資料，提供個人觀點。如果你的老闆還不確定，試著幫他拿主意，採取行動。

例如，如果你渴望他做出戰略決策，你可以說：“有幾種方法可以解决這個問題。我能要一個彙報我的作法嗎？”

即使這些策略奏效，也要記住一個優柔寡斷的老闆可能仍然是無濟於事的，這對你的聲譽還是是有害的。這個時候，你最好還是在公司內另謀能夠真正支持你的其他老闆。

Don't let an indecisive boss hold you back

It’s hard to meet a boss who can’t make a decision. Without decision, you may not know what your boss expects, or how best to move a project forward.

You can help solve the problem by acting as a consultant to your boss. Help your boss weigh the pros and cons of various actions.

Ask sharp questions, provide relevant information, and provide personal views. If your boss is not sure, try to help him make up his mind and take actions.

For example, if you want him to make a strategic decision, you can say, “there are several ways to solve this problem. Can I have a report on what I'm doing? "

Even if these strategies work, keep in mind that an indecisive boss may still be useless and bad for your reputation. At this point, you’d better find another boss in the company who can really support you.

寫下你的情緒狀態來面對它

你會不會感覺有的時候情緒不對勁，但不確定是為什麼？先察覺你的情緒狀態是應對情緒不穩的第一步。

能夠認知自己情緒狀況的人，通常身心健康狀態會比較好。

當你正經歷一段艱難的時期或者一次大的轉變時，試試這個練習： 用20分鐘的時間，寫下（在紙上或電腦上）你過去一周、一個月或一年的情緒經歷。就隨意的寫。使用短句，如“我學到了，“我覺得，”“可能是因為，”，“我現在認識到，”“我明白。”這些片語幫助你說明你的情緒和觀察的角度，為什麼你感到如此。你不必保存文件。

一旦你寫下來了，你就開始明白你真實的情緒，並且能夠理性去面對它。

Write your emotional state to face it

Do you feel that something is wrong at the moment, but not sure why? First aware of your emotional state is the first step in dealing with emotional instability.

People who are aware of their emotional state are generally better at physical and mental health.

When you are going through a difficult period or a big change, try this exercise: take 20 minutes to write down (on paper or computer) your emotion in past week, a month or a year experience. Write as you like. Use short sentences, such as “I learned，”,“I think,”，“may be because，”，“I now realize,”，“I see.” These phrases to help you explain your feelings and point of view, why do you feel so？You don't have to save the file.
Once you write it down, you begin to understand your real emotions and be able to cope with it rationally.