當同事騎到你頭上時，保持冷靜

當你發現你的同事越過你，騎到你頭上和老闆直接對話，你會很氣惱。不僅是因為你被排除在和老闆的對話，而且可能他會弄得你很難堪。當有人越過你時，你能夠怎麼說、怎麼做呢？

你應該退一步來評估你究竟知道了什麼。查明清楚事實，而不要胡亂做判斷與批評。

你是否可能誤會了？如果你不知道究竟發生了什麼，就去弄清楚。

你可以問你的老闆：“我聽說小張提出了一個新點子，是否有任何我需要知道的嗎？”你必須以輕鬆而不會被質疑的語調向老闆提問，不要被認為你準備挑起一場口角鬥爭。

你也可以私下問你的同事，聽聽他向老闆說了什麼，以及他做了什麼，他說的內容是否與你有關？

一旦你有了所有的資訊，你就可以做出合理的判斷，知道你以後該如何對應。

Stay calm when your colleagues ride on your head

When you find your colleagues cross you and ride on your head and talk directly to your boss, you get angry. It's not only because you're excluded from the conversation with the boss, and maybe he'll embarrass you. What can you say and do when someone passes you?

You should take a step back and evaluate what you know. Find out the facts, rather than making random judgments and criticisms.

Are you likely to misunderstand? If you don't know what's going on, just figure it out.

You can ask your boss: "I hear that 小張 has come up with a new idea. Is there anything I need to know?" You have to ask your boss questions in a relaxed, non- questioning tone, and don't think you're ready to engage in a quarrel.

You can also ask your colleagues in private, listen to what he said to his boss, and what he did, and what he said is relevant to you

Once you have all the information, you can make a reasonable judgment and know how you should deal with it later.

情緒緊張時，深呼吸

要練習平靜情緒，就如訓練身體肌肉一樣。關注你的身體可以幫助你鬆弛你的緊張情緒。注意你的身體器官的狀況，而非忽視它。

下一次，你感到壓力太大時，做個深呼吸，然後感覺空氣如何充滿你的肺部，然後將其呼出去。這可以讓中斷你正在緊張的情緒，讓你有一些能量來回應你正在面對你的威脅來源。

當我們處於情緒痛苦的時候，例如，我們感覺將要搞砸一場重要的簡報演說時，我們會讓自己處於幻覺中，故意忽略這個重要的事情。做個深呼吸，可以讓你回到現實，并降低你的迷糊狀態。讓自己恢復清醒，可以提醒你回到面對你的工作。

Breathe deeply when you feel nervous

Practice calming your emotions, just like training your body muscles. Paying attention to your body can help you relax your nervousness. Pay attention to the condition of your body organ, not ignore it.

Next time you feel too stressed, take a deep breath, and feel how the air fills your lungs and breathe out. This allows you to interrupt the tension that you are feeling and allow you to have some energy to respond to the source of the threat that you are facing.

When we're in emotional distress, for example, when we feel that we're going to screw up an important briefing, we're going to let ourselves be in the illusion and deliberately ignore this important thing.

Take a deep breath, which allows you to return to reality and reduce your confusion. Bring back to your senses and remind you to go back to your work.

認知你的壞習慣

我們都有弱點。幸運的是，這些弱點通常不是因為我們缺乏能力，而通常是因為我們的壞習慣。

當你在辦公室一邊準備簡報資料，一邊檢查你的郵件或是上網瀏覽網頁，這就是你的壞習慣。你沒有做好優先次序管理。

這可能是因為你焦慮、情緒不穩，或是不知道如何適當應付你當下的工作。

要改變這樣的壞習慣的關鍵是先認清楚你正在發生不合宜行為了。這個時候，注意你的情緒、心理狀態，以及發生的時間、地點位置。

如果你能夠認知你發生不好行為的狀態，你就有機會控制你自己的行為。提醒自己必須注意。

然後，先停下你的這樣的不當舉止，起來走動一下，讓自己的思慮沉靜下來，讓自己恢復專心，以不著急的態度回到你應該做的工作上，讓自己看到一些小進步。

不要貪心，你的壞習慣不會立刻就可以戒除。但是，只要你注意到了，而且能夠逐漸控制，你終究可以戒除掉你的壞習慣。

Recognize your bad habits

We all have weaknesses. Fortunately, these weaknesses are usually not due to our lack of ability, but often because of our bad habits.

It's a bad habit when you're preparing your briefing material at the office, and checking your email, or surfing the web. You don't have priorities.

This may be because you're anxious, emotionally unstable, or you don't know how to deal with your current job properly.

The key to changing such bad habits is to recognize that you are doing inappropriate behavior. At this point, pay attention to your emotions, mental state, and the time and place of occurrence.

If you can recognize the state of your bad behavior, you will have the opportunity to control your behavior. Remind yourself that you have to pay attention.

Then, stop your bad behavior, get up and move around, calm your mind, get your attention back, get back to work you need to do, and make yourself see some little progress.

Don't be greedy. Your bad habits don't get rid of it immediately. But as long as you notice and control gradually, you can end your bad habits.

分辨“你想做”和“你應做”的差異

你是選擇“你想做”的事情，還是“你應做”的事情來做？多數人會傾向于能夠讓我們感到愉悅的事情。但是，長期來說，能夠滿足他人的工作，才是真正讓自己內心可以得到滿足的。

以下的方法能夠讓你找出你的熱情：

1. 找出一項活動來問自己，做這件事你會感覺高興還是不高興？
2. 問自己的價值觀，哪些事會驅動你去做，而哪些事你不屑一顧？做什麼樣的事情你會覺得驕傲，而做那些事你只能孤芳自賞？
3. 將你找出來的幾件事做個比較，其中是否有既可以讓你感覺高興，又可以讓你覺得驕傲？若是沒有，就必須做一些改變，專注于值得你去發展的項目。

Distinguish difference between “you want to do”and “you should do”

Do you choose what you want to do, or do what you should do? Most people tend to do things that make us happy. But in the long run, to be able to satisfy others is real satisfaction of your heart.

Here are some ways to find out your passion:

1. Find an activity to ask yourself, do you feel happy or unhappy about doing this?
2. Ask your values, what drives you to do it, and what you don’t care about? What kind of things do you feel proud of, and do those things you can indulge in self-admiration?
3. Make a comparison between the things you've found, and whether or not it can make you feel happy and make you feel proud. If not, you have to make some changes and focus on projects that are worth your development.

三招轉換心境來避免焦慮崩潰

每個人在工作上都會面臨緊張狀態。但是有些人可以支撐長時間、高壓力、度過危機。他們是如何做到的？

這是因為他們在面對緊張壓力時轉換了心境：

1. 不要讓自己成為壓力源。不讓自己成為完美主義與追求高成就者。當你感覺工作太辛苦時，放鬆自己對自己的期待高標準。
2. 了解自己的極限。你不需要一定要當英雄。你如果沒有那樣的卓越能力，或是沒有那樣的能耐，誠實地面對自己，並且請求他人幫助。
3. 重新評估你的觀點。你究竟對某種狀況是個威脅還是展現你能力的機會？你認為它是個問題還是等待你去解決的問題？改變你的觀點，可以降低你的壓力。

Three ways to avoid collapse of anxiety mood conversion

Everyone is in a state of tension at work. But some people can support long, high pressure and crisis. How did they do it?

This is because they change their minds when they face stress:

1. Don't let yourself be a source a stress. Don't let yourself be perfectionist and the pursuit of high achievement. When you feel too hard at work, relax your expectations.
2. Know your limits. You don't have to be a hero. If you don't have that kind of excellence, or you don't have that ability, be honest to yourself and ask for help.
3. Re-evaluate your point of view. Are you a threat to a situation or an opportunity to show your ability? Do you think it's a problem or a problem waiting for you to solve? Changing your point of view can lower your stress.

維護好你的專業人脈網

每個人都知道維護好人脈網是很重要的。但是，一旦你和某人建立好的人際關係后，你要如何長期維護這個關係，以便當你要找工作或是尋求他的專業咨詢時，能夠得到他的幫助？

首先，你要決定哪些人是你要根據他的專業價值和你的職業相關度而有必要長期和他維護好關係的。你可以找你現在和潛在的客戶，有影響力的同事，以及在你的專業領域中有優秀人脈的朋友，讓他們成為你的長期人脈。

然後，決定好你要和他們的聯繫頻率。有些可能要經常聯繫，有些每季聯繫一次，有些則以年度來保持關係。

在聯絡時，你可以先從關切他們的生活狀況開始，詢問是否你有可以幫得上忙的？

如果有些人對某個主題有共同的興趣，你可以約他們一起聚會，或是在網上組織社團，分享見解。

你的人脈網的人員，可以隨著你的專業與職業變化的需要，進行汰換。

Maintain your professional network

Everyone knows that it's important to maintain a good network of people. But once you have established a good relationship with someone, how do you maintain the relationship for a long time so that you can get help when you want to find a job or seek professional advice?

First of all, you have to decide who you need to you need to maintain good relationship with him for a long time depending on his professional values and your career relevance. You can find your current and potential clients, influential colleagues, and friends in your field of expertise, and make them your long-term connections.

Then, decide how much you want to connect with them. Some may keep in touch regularly, some contact once a quarter, and some keep relationships in years.

In contact, you can start by caring about their lives and asking if you can help.

If someone has a common interest in a subject, you can ask them to have a get-together, or organize a community online and share ideas.

Your network of people can be replaced by the needs of your profession and career change.

聰明地安排你的能量

多數的人都是全馬力地在工作，沒有多餘的能量可以消耗。所以，我們必須有策略的將我們的能量安排在我們最關切的事情上。

就從這些方面開始：

1.  瞭解你的身體能量。你可以隨意在手機上設定幾個鬧鈴時間，提醒你自己檢查你的身體能量狀態。一般是最好每工作50分鐘左右，能夠讓自己從座位上起來，稍微走動舒緩一下。
2. 知道哪些是重要的? 知道哪些可以帶來最大的價值，以及能夠讓你感到愉悅？
3. 將你的工作與休息時間安排好。當你知道那些事是重要的之後，在你的工作日曆表上，盡可能安排上去。
4. 知道哪些事不要做。一旦你知道你必須去做哪些事，你就會知道哪些事不值得你去消耗能量。
5. 不要再多想。一旦你安排好工作與休息後，就不要再去多想，就按照計畫去做。尤其是不要浪費時間在無謂的對話、看網頁，或是胡思亂想。

Arrange your energy wisely

Most people are working all horsepower, and there is no excess energy that can be consumed. So we have to have a strategy to put our energy in our most concerns.

From these aspects:

1. Understand your body energy. You can set a few alarm times on your mobile phone to remind yourself to check your body energy. Generally, it is best to work 50 minutes or so to get yourself out of your seat and move a little more slowly.
2. Know what is important? Know what can bring the greatest value, and what makes you feel happy?
3. Arrange your work and rest time. When you know what things are important, put it on your work calendar as much as possible.
4. Know what not to do. Once you know what you have to do, you will know what is not worth your energy.
5. Don't think any more. Once you have arranged for work and a rest, don't think more about it and do it according to the plan. In particular, don't waste time on meaningless conversations, web pages, or nonsense.

在工作上如何妥協？

沒有人喜歡在受到壓迫下做自己不同意的事。但是，萬一你的公司因為受到某些誘惑而要求你做你認為不是正確的行為，例如如此做對客戶利益不佳，或者是不道德、或甚至是違法的，你應該如何應對？

首先，不要衝動，尤其不要自以為是。先檢討你究竟是否了解狀況？問自己，這樣的行為是否違反產業一般作業標準？或是，這樣做並非最好的做法？有哪些具體的作法是不符合客戶利益，或是違反了道德良俗，或是違法了？或是，如此做有人會認為是OK, 但是只是沒有你期待的那麼好？

回答這些問題可以讓你意識到你原來的主張是否足夠有力？如果你認為公司的這些要求很清楚是錯的，你就有比較強的立場來說服別人嚴肅面對你的顧慮。你也會因此思考得更周圓來和他人對話。

How to compromise on the job?

No one likes to do things they don’t agree with under pressure. But what should you do if your company asks you to do something you think is not right because of some temptation? For example, how to deal with the interests of customers, or immoral or even illegal?

First, do not be impulsive, especially do not be self-righteous. First of all, do you understand the situation? Ask yourself, does such a behavior violate the standard of the general operation of the industry? Or is it not the best way to do this? What are the specific practices that do not conform to the interests of the customers, or are they violating the moral custom, or are illegal? Or, is it just not as good as you expect someone so do someone thinks it's OK?

Answering these questions can make you realize that your original claim is strong enough. If you think the company's requirements are clearly wrong, you have a strong position to convince others to take your concerns seriously. You will also think about how to talk with others.