沒有一種工作是不委屈的

原文地址：http://www.knowledger.info/2016/09/26/not-any-job-is-easy/?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+knowledger%2Fexst+%28%E7%9F%A5%E8%AD%98%E5%AE%B6%29

很多人都知道，劉若英在出道前曾經是她師父，就是著名音樂人陳昇的助理，劉若英在唱片公司裡幾乎什麼都要做，甚至要洗廁所，她跟另外一個助理兩人一星期洗廁所的分工是一三五和二四六，另一個助理的名字叫金城武。

回憶往事的意義在於，讓人記住的總是美好的那一部分，至於其中的艱難也總會被歲月所淡化，這也是為什麼我跟很多長輩請教他們過去經歷的時候，他們對於那些過往的苦與難大多時候都是一笑而過，因為他們自己也不知道是怎麼過來的了。

所以回到如今現實中的問題，身為一個非職場新鮮人，我能想起來這三四年的工作感受也是美好多於不快樂的部分，但是這個過程中我自己體會到的一件事情就是，我以前總以為熬過這一段時光就會好起來了，這種觀點有可能是錯誤的。

一是沒有人能給出一個答案，所謂好起來的生活是什麼樣的。二是這個熬過去的日子裡，很多時候只是我們當下覺得困難重重，殊不知其實你所經歷的，也正是大部分人正在經歷的一切，當然那些極端個別的案例我不想拿來論證這一點。

剛進職場的時候，我們要學習基本的職場規則，要盡快熟悉自己工作崗位上的必要技能，我敢說我們大學裡學的那些東西，基本上進了職場後九成是用不上的，這個時候一個人的學習能力跟領悟力就是最大的競爭力，當然除此之外，更重要的是我們心態上的調適，這件事情小到我該不該跟隔壁的同事打招呼，大到比如直屬主管要我做的事情跟公司的流程規則有衝突，這個時候我該怎麼辦？

你有沒有發現，這個時候你就像一個黑暗中獨自摸索的孩子，沒有家人，沒有老師，沒有學長學姊可以問，周圍一群陌生人漫無表情地穿梭於辦公室的走廊過道上，就像電影裡的快鏡頭，你身後的景象千變萬化飛速流轉，你自己一個人孤獨地停留在原地。

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寫一封優雅的辭職信（即使你等不及要辭職）

無論什麼理由，你都決定要辭職離開了，你離開時如何寫一封優美的辭職信？

也許你的工作嚴重損害你的健康和幸福，你甚至懷疑你的組織的行為是不道德或非法。無論情况如何，你都不希望你的信的內容來困擾你，所以不要做出指責。你需要你現在的老闆或人力資源部能够在你未來的僱主來咨詢他們的意見時，提供至少一個中立的參攷。

所以，在你的辭職信中提供真誠的讚美，比如你在公司期間學到了多少東西。然後給你一個可信的離開理由。它不一定是主要原因，但它應該是真實的。

例如，你可能會說，“我已經意識到我可以通過把我的職業生涯轉向銷售和市場來實現我的目標。”

在你離開的時候保持專業的形象可以保住你的聲譽，這對你下一份工作至關重要。

Write an elegant resignation letter (even if you can't wait to resign)

Whatever the reason, you've decided to quit your job. How do you write an elegant resignation letter when you leave?

Maybe you work seriously harm your health and happiness, and you suspect that your organization is unethical or illegal. In any case, you do not want your letter to haunt you, so don't make accusations. You need your current boss or human resources department in your future employer to consult them, provide at least a neutral reference.

So, give sincere compliments in your letter of resignation, such as how much you've learned during the company, and then give you a credible reason to leave. It's not necessarily the main reason, but it should be true.

For example, you might say, "I've realized that I can achieve my goals by turning my career toward sales and marketing."

Keeping your professional image while you're away can save your reputation, which is critical to your next job.

在困難的談話之前，先考慮對方的觀點（2）

很自然的，進入一個艱難的談話，會先關切你想要得到的結果。

但是只考慮你的目標不會給你和你的對手解决衝突所必需的共同基礎。你需要很好地瞭解別人的目標和興趣是什麼。他們有一個理由，他們的行為至今（即使你不同意它），那可能是什麼？想想他們發生了什麼事。

問問你自己：他們希望達到什麼目標？這對他們來說有什麼關係？如果你不確定，問問你信任的人，他們認為對方的想法是怎樣的。

你可能會說：“我喜歡一些建議和指導。我之前和王先生沒有合作過，但我知道你有。你能幫我瞭解他怎麼會看這種情況嗎？“設身處地為他人著想，你可以利用資訊來討論討論，並提出滿足你兩方面需求的解決方案。

Before a Difficult Conversation, Consider Your Counterpart’s Perspective

Naturally, getting into a difficult conversation will focus on what you want to get.

But thinking only about your goals won’t give you and your counterpart the common ground necessary to resolve the conflict.

You need a good understanding of what other people's objectives and interests. They have a reason for their behavior so far (even if you don't agree with it), what it might be?

Ask yourself: what do they want to achieve? What does it matter to them?

If you're not sure, ask the person you trust, what they think the other person's opinion is.

You might say: "I love some advice and guidance. I have not worked with Mr. Wang, but I know you are. Can you help me understand how he can see this?" Putting yourself in the other person’s shoes will give you information you can use to navigate the discussion and propose solutions that meet both of your needs.

使用快速回饋會話與同事交流意見

如果你曾經猶豫過向同事提供關鍵的回饋，你並不孤單。即使當我們察覺到問題時，我們也常常保持沉默，以免被看作是一種干擾。你可以通過和同事建立“快速約會”回饋對話來克服這種不適。

與同事作一對一見面20 - 30分鐘。輪流提供你對對方領導能力或戰畧執行的觀察。這是你提供回饋的機會，幫助你的同事重回正軌，並聽取他們關於你如何改進自己角色的建議。

與每個同事重複這個過程，根據需要製定計畫跟進。與你的同事確認一下，並提供建設性的回饋會讓你對彼此的成功負有共同的責任。

Communicating with colleagues through fast feedback sessions

If you have hesitated to provide critical feedback to colleagues, you are not alone. Even when we are aware of problems, we often keep silent, so as not to be viewed as a distraction. You can go through and colleagues to establish a "speed dating" feedback dialogue to overcome this discomfort.

Meet your colleagues for 20-30 minutes. Take turns to provide an observation of your leadership or strategy implementation. This is an opportunity for you to give feedback, to help your colleagues get back on track and to listen to their suggestions about how you improve your role.

Repeat this process with each of your colleagues, and develop a plan and follow up to needed. Confirm with your colleagues, and provide constructive feedback that will give you a shared responsibility for each other's success.

避免這四種破壞談話的行為

當工作中艱難的對話出出現不恰當行為，就會迅速轉變無效的爭論。保持你的討論在相互尊重的氛圍：避免責備、蔑視、自我防衛和拖延。

1. 責怪。儘量不要假設你的同事在想什麼，不要做無端的指責。把談話的重點放在事實上。
2. 蔑視。當你憤怒地抨擊時，你要承認，並盡可能避免作出判斷。
3. 自我防衛。對談話中的角色要負責。你是否持接受別人意見，或者把新觀點解釋為批評？
4. 拖延。致力於傾聽並以開放的心態做出貢獻，而不是回避不愉快的話題或拒絕充分參與談話。

任何這些行為都會使討論脫軌，所以要對你自己和你的隊友作出承諾，避免發生這些不恰當的行為。

Avoid these 4 ways of damaging conversations

When a difficult conversation occurs, inappropriate behavior will quickly change ineffective debate. Keep your discussion in an atmosphere of mutual respect: avoid blame, contempt, self-defense and delays.

1. Blame. Try not to assume what your colleagues are thinking. Don't make groundless accusations. Put the focus of the conversation on the facts.
2. Contempt. When you attack angrily, admit it and avoid judgment as much as possible.
3. Self-defense. Be responsible for the role in the conversation. Do you accept the opinions of others or interpret the new ideas as criticism?
4. Delays. Be committed to listening and contributing with open mind rather than avoiding unpleasant topics or refusing to engage fully in conversation.

Any of these actions will derail the discussion, so make a commitment to yourself and your teammates to avoid these inappropriate behaviors.

為你的後退休生涯做好準備

你準備好放棄全職的公司生活，成為各種兼職角色-董事會席位，兼職教授，諮詢，或寫作？

在你做出重大改變之前，要知道你想從你的退休生涯中得到什麼：是更靈活的生活安排和減少必要的出差旅行嗎？有機會回饋嗎？有清晰的視可以確保你選擇到正確的機會。

同時，你要準備好一些相關的經驗。如果你想在董事會任職，在你離開全職工作之前就設法加入董事會。如果你想寫作，一定要在你退休之前就發表過，成為有知名度的作家。如果沒有在某一領域取得成功的記錄，就很難找到好的機會。

最後，要準備好放慢腳步。經過數年、數十年的全職工作-不斷的緊張，隨時要回應的電話，即時的需求，以及迫切的決定-許多高管都驚訝地發現，退休后的生活節奏要慢的許多。

當然，如果你退休前就安排準備的夠好，你仍然可以在退休後維持不會太鬆弛的生活，只是更滿足你想要的工作與生活的平衡，更符合你的理想。

Get ready for your retirement career

Before make big changes, know what you want from your retirement: more flexible living arrangements and less business travel? Do you have chance to take back? Having a clear view will ensure that you choose the right opportunity.

At the same time, you should be prepared for some relevant experience. If you want to serve on a board, try to join the board before you leave your full-time job. If you want to write, be sure to publish before you retire, become a well-known writer. It is difficult to find a good opportunity without a track record of success in one area.

Finally, be prepared to slow down. After years of full-time work, constantly tension, responsive calls, real time needs, and urgent decisions - many executives are surprised to find that life after retirement is much slower.

Of course, if you plan well enough before you retire, you can still maintain a life that won’t be too loose after you retire, just to meet the work-life balance you want and to be more in line with your ideals.

要解决一個問題，就不要再去想它了

當你試圖想出一個創造性的方法來解决問題時，你可能會忍不住想更多辦法來解决這個問題。

然而，如果你每隔一段時間休息一下，會產生更好的結果。

設定一個計時器，比如說30分鐘。當時間到時，就切換工作：去整理你的報帳收據，檢查你的電子郵件，或清理你的辦公桌，然後回到原來的工作。

如果你不想停下來，因為你覺得你正在猶豫不決。無論如何，你應該休息一下。

我們往往會有太多的想法，因而耗費過多的精力，卻不能有好的創造力。當我們不定期休息時，可以問問自己，

不要因為休息而感到內疚。這樣做可能是對時間的最好利用。

To solve a problem, stop thinking about it

When you try to come up with a creative solution to the problem, you may tempted to think of more ways to solve the problem.

However, if you take a break every once in a while, it will produce better results.

Set a timer, say 30 minutes. When the time comes, switch jobs: sort out your receipts, check your emails, or clean up your desk, and then back to work.

If you don’t want to stop because you feel you’re hesitating. Anyway, you should have a rest.

We tend to have too many ideas, so we spend too much energy, but not have good creativity. When we rest from time to time, we can recharge ourselves.

Don’t feel guilty about taking a break. This may be the best use of time.

當你沒有得到老闆的回饋時，你該怎麼做？

如果你的老闆對你的工作不給予回饋，很容易感覺群龍無首。

幸運的是，績效評估資料表明，大多數經理主管在員工中可以得到他在尋找的東西。交付工作結果就是明確的一個——當的直接員工報告能够按時完成目標時，經理主管們總是會對他們留下深刻印象。

當然，工作質量也很重要。領導管理者也高度信任那些值得信賴、溝通良好、具有科技專長的人。

所以，如果你的老闆不告訴你他們在找什麼，那就想想你是如何面對這些普遍的期望的。與團隊其他成員相比，你產生的產出是多少？你工作的質量是多少？找出差距，專注於實現這些期望。運氣好的話，你的老闆會注意的。

What do you do when you don't get feedback from your boss?

If your boss does not give feedback on your work, it is easy to feel no leader in.

Fortunately, the performance evaluation data show that most managers can get him in search of something in the staff.

Deliver the result is clear: when a direct report staff to complete the target on time, executives will always leave a deep impression on them.

Of course, the quality of work is also very important. Leaders also highly trust those who are trustworthy, good communication, and have expertise in science and technology.

So, if your boss doesn't tell you what they are looking for, consider how you face these common expectations. Compared with other members of the team, how much is your generated output? What is the quality of your work? Find out the gap, focusing on the realization of these expectations. With any luck, you the boss will notice.