培養你可以從挫折中回復的能力

有些人面對挫折，仍然可以茁壯成長，而有些人則人似乎無法復原。例如，你如何應對被解雇或沒有得到晋昇？你恢復信心是感到容易還是感到困難？

你可以培養三種特質來幫助你可以從挫折中復原：

1. 清楚地看到現實。有辦法的人對他們面臨的形勢會有實際的看法。他們並不過於樂觀，也不否認現實。相反地，他們甚至盯著困難的局面，把它們看作是訓練自己如何度過苦難的一種管道。
2. 從所發生的事實來發現其中的意義。有辦法的人會從所經歷的痛苦來創造出某種意義。
3. 願意設法解決問題。當你面對問題卻缺乏必須的資源，仍然願意去克服障礙。有辦法的人會充分利用他們僅有擁有的資源。

Cultivate your ability to recover from setbacks

Some people still thrive when faced with setbacks, while others don't seem to be able to recover. For example, how do you deal with being fired or not getting promoted? Is it easy or difficult for you to regain your confidence?

You can develop three traits that help you recover from setbacks:

1. See clearly the reality. There are ways for people to have the actual situation they face will view the reality. They are not too optimistic, do not deny the reality. On the contrary, they even looked at the difficult situation, regard them as a pipeline to spend training their suffering.
2. Discover the meaning from facts that happen. People who are able to create some kind of meaning from the pain they experience.
3. Willing to solve problems. When you face problems and lack the necessary resources, you are still willing to overcome obstacles. People who have ways will make full use of the resources they have.

挪出時間處理不得不做的小事

每個人都會有一些雖然細瑣，但是卻不得不做的事，例如：整理文件夾、清理郵件、答應別人要打電話，等等。

如果你無法委託他人或是拋棄這些工作，這裡有兩種作法來應付這種類型的工作：

1. 一次完成這些不那麼重要的工作。去創造一種動力感。你可找個咖啡館，坐下來清理這些小工作，并承諾自己在沒有做完之前不要回家。或者，和一些同事一起完成你的無聊的工作清單。
2. 使用“滴水穿石”的策略。在你的時間表中找出一些小的時間段，運用這些短暫的時間來做低價值的工作。你可以在完成了重要工作后的一些壓力較低的時間，來做這些小事。如此，當你在恢復處理重要工作時，心理會比較清爽，不會心頭老擱著還有煩人的事情還沒有處理完。

Set aside times to deal with trivial things that have to be done

Everyone has some things that have to be done, such as organizing folders, cleaning mails, making promises to call, and so on.

If you can't delegate or abandon these jobs, there are two ways to deal with such type of works:

1. Complete these less important works at one time. To create a sense of momentum. You can find a cafe, sit down and clean up these small jobs, and promise yourself not to go home until fully cleaning up. Or, you work together with some colleagues to complete such boring job list.
2. To use of "Constant dripping wears away a stone." strategy. Find out some small time in your working schedule. Use the short time to do low value work. You can in some pressure to complete the important work after low time to do these things. So, when you are doing important work during the recovery time, your mind would be more relaxed. There are not old heart annoying things has not been resolved.

依靠別人來幫你進步

人們普遍有個錯誤的認識，以為個人的進步要靠自己的努力。

雖然我們都會有“自我努力”的觀念，但是最成功的自我改善的作法是依靠著他人，以他人為學習模仿的榜樣。

如果你想獲得一項新的技能或者打破一個壞習慣，就去尋找那些同樣想做同樣事情的人，並定期會面。你也可以加入線上學習社群、討論小組或課程。通過換位思考，成功的故事，以及“關注……”的見解，你可以建立信心和決心去克服挫折，加速新行為的採納。你也可以建立起互相幫助的朋友圈。

最重要的是，你對彼此的成功產生了歸屬感，這會帶來變革的動力。

Depend on others to help you improve

People generally have a wrong understanding that individual progress depends on their own efforts.

Although we all have the concept of "self-effort", the most successful way to improve ourselves is relying on others, to imitate others as learning model.

If you want to get a new skill or breaking a bad habit, look for those who want to do the same thing, and arrange regular meeting with him. You can also join the online learning community, discussion groups or courses. Through empathy, success stories, and attention, “Yes, you can...” the establishment of confidence and determination to overcome the setbacks, the adoption of new acceleration behavior. You can also set up a circle of friends to help each other.

The most important thing is that you on the success of each other have a sense of belonging, this power will bring change.

不要讓老闆對你的拒絕，妨礙了你去達成目標

當我們提出請求得到更多資源時，我們大多數人都不願意被拒絕。我們通常相信，擁有的資源愈多，就愈會取得更好的結果。

但是，如此一來，你的老闆就沒有機會證明你能夠用更少的資源而仍然能夠的到高品質工作，你能夠找出有創意的解決方案的能力。

事實上，你在缺乏經驗之下而有的經歷愈多，你就越有可能學會如何運用你的聰明才智去創造解決方案。

不要把精力集中在你得不到的資源上，想想你面對的工作挑戰、如何能夠以現有的資源以及與他人合作，而仍然可以達到專案期限內，達到銷售目標或任何其他目標。

把你所需要的資源投入在任務中，開始實驗。你可能會發現，即使沒有完整的資源，或者有更多的預算，只要有完整的計畫，合作無間團隊，你還是能夠朝著你的目標前進。

Don't let your boss refuse you to interfere with your goals

When we ask for more resources, most of us don't want to be rejected. We usually believe that the more resources we have, the better the results will be.

But in this case, your boss has no chance to prove that you can use less resources and still be able to work in high quality, and you can find creative solutions.

In fact, the less experience you have and the more experience you have, the more likely you are to learn how to use your intelligence to create solutions.

Don't focus on what you can't get resources, think about how you face the challenge, can work with existing resources and cooperation with others, but can still meet the project deadline, or any other goal to reach the sales target.

You need to invest resources in the task, begin the experiment. You may find that even if there is no complete resource, or have more budget, as long as there is a complete plan, cooperation team, you are still able to work toward your goal.

你還是能夠應付原來會害怕的事的

當你處於一種新的處境時，很自然的會感到有些空虛無力。然而，大多數人都會比他們自己感受到的，更靈活和更能適應適應。

要能夠應付你原來感到無能為力的事，你可以回顧一下你曾經做過的事，也許是換一個工作，或者是你搬到一個新的城市。

又如，如果你對參加社交活動會感到緊張，可以回想一下與你互動的所有人。你和新的同事說話的方式，和與老同事說話有何不同？你和親戚交往的方式，和與大學同學交往的方式有何不同？

想清楚了，你就比較能夠掌握其中的相同與差異之處。你會發現，其實只要你靜下心來，你還是可以應付你原來認為無能為力的事情。至少，你不再會那麼害怕面對新事物。

You can still cope with what you're afraid of

When you're in a new situation, you naturally feel a little empty and powerless. However, most people are more flexible and more adaptive to what they feel.

To be able to cope with what you feel powerless, you can review what you've done, maybe a job, or you move to a new city.

Also, if you're nervous about socializing, think about all the people who interact with you. How do you speak to your new colleagues, and how do you speak to your old colleagues? How do you communicate with your relatives and the way you interact with your college classmates?

If you think about it, you'll be able to grasp the similarities and differences. You will find that, as long as you calm down, you can still cope with what you think you can't do. At the least, you won't be so afraid of facing new things.

以兩個問題，來幫助你設定優先次序

如果你的老闆不是那種會給你大量指示的主管，那麼，你就必須給自己的工作設定優先次序。

你可以通過問自己兩個問題來關注正確的事情：

1. “我可以做的最大貢獻是什麼？”考慮組織的需要和你獨特的優勢、經驗和能力。但不要只關注你擅長什麼。也問問自己：
2. “我對什麼充滿激情？”想想你認為最鼓舞人心的項目和任務，以及你能發揮出最大影響的地方。集中你的努力會激勵你付出額外的努力。

將那些在你可以做出高貢獻和你可以有激情工作項目上，做出你的計劃排序，安排好你的工作，同時將那些低價值和讓你興趣低的工作、和會議的日常工作委託出去或予以拒絕。

Use two questions to help you prioritize

If your boss isn't the kind of supervisor who gives you a lot of instructions, then you have to prioritize for your work.

You can focus on the right things by asking yourself two questions:

1.  “What is the greatest contribution I can make?” To consider the needs of the organization and your unique strengths, experience and ability. But don't focus on what you are good at. Ask yourself:
2.   “What am I passionate about?” Think about the projects and tasks, what make you most inspiring, and where you can make the most impact? Focusing your efforts will motivate you to put in extra effort.

Prioritize those that you can make a high contribution to and you can have a passion for working on. Prioritize your plans and arrange your work. At the same time, delegate or reject the low-value and low-interest jobs, and the day-to-day work of the meeting.

三招讓你專注在工作上

我們每天不斷地在急於獲取資料的行為，會扼殺我們的生產力。我們中的很多人一天的開始就拿起手機或打開電腦，然後就迷失在一連串的通知和資訊中。

這裡有三件事你可以做，為你自己創造更多的時間，保持專注和有效的工作：

1. 正確地開始你的一天。當你醒來時，不要翻身，開始在你的手機上查收電子郵件。你可以試著做一個簡單的冥想的練習：做幾次深呼吸，寫下你感激的事情，或者冥想20 - 30分鐘。
2. 組織好你的一天。利用你身體的自然節奏。早上要專注於複雜的、創造性的工作。把會議推到下午。
3. 整理工作環境。一個乾淨的工作環境可以讓你有可以平靜思維.頭腦。把所有的東西放在抽屜裡。將文件整理好在分類的電腦文件檔內。.在你的手機上，只保留8 - 12個最重要的應用在你的主螢幕上。關閉所有不必要的通知。

Three allows you to focus on work

Every day we continue to get data in anxious behavior, will kill our productivity. Many of us pick up mobile phones or turn on computers at the beginning of the day, and then get lost in a series of notifications and messages.

Here are three things you can do, create more time for yourself, stay focused and work effectively:

1. Start your day right. Don't stand up when you wake up, start on your mobile phone to check e-mail. You can try doing a simple meditation practice: take a few deep breaths, write something that you appreciate, or meditate for 20-30 minutes.
2. Organize your day. Use the natural rhythm of your body. Use morning time to focus on complex and creative work. Push the meeting to the afternoon.
3. Tidy up the working environment. A clean working environment can let you have to calm the mind thinking. Put everything in the drawer. Put your computer documents in file folders. Only reserve 8-12 of the most important applications in your mobile main screen. Close all unnecessary notifications.

幫助完美主義者不要對自己太嚴厲

完美主義者通常不願意暴露出自己的弱點，這使得他們特別難以被教導。導師應該如何做？

試著把你的教導重點放在給予肯定、確認、鼓勵和支持上。引導他去發現價值，而不只是獎勵他的表現。

當他失敗或是認知自己失敗時，幫助他們去探究失敗的原因，和勇敢的承擔起失敗的責任，并找出改進的作法。

允許完美主義者也可以承擔一些錯誤，告訴他們并不需要知道一切的答案，并鼓勵他們去試錯。但是要向他們示範應該如何學習與成長。

你可以向完美主義者說：“我也不知道，但是我們一起來找出答案。

Help perfectionist, don't be too hard on yourself

Perfectionists are usually reluctant to expose their weaknesses, which makes them particularly difficult to teach. How should a mentor do it?

Try to focus your teaching on affirmation, validation, encouragement and support. Guide him to discover value, not just reward his performance.

When he fails or knows his own failures, helps him to explore the causes of failure, and bravely assumes responsibility for failure, and finds ways to improve.

Allow perfectionists to take on some mistakes, tell them they don't need to know all the answers, and encourage them to try and make mistakes, but show them how to learn and grow.

You can say to perfectionism: "I don't know, but we work together to find the answer.