依靠別人來幫你進步

人們普遍有個錯誤的認識，以為個人的進步要靠自己的努力。

雖然我們都會有“自我努力”的觀念，但是最成功的自我改善的作法是依靠著他人，以他人為學習模仿的榜樣。

如果你想獲得一項新的技能或者打破一個壞習慣，就去尋找那些同樣想做同樣事情的人，並定期會面。你也可以加入線上學習社群、討論小組或課程。通過換位思考，成功的故事，以及“關注……”的見解，你可以建立信心和決心去克服挫折，加速新行為的採納。你也可以建立起互相幫助的朋友圈。

最重要的是，你對彼此的成功產生了歸屬感，這會帶來變革的動力。

Depend on others to help you improve

People generally have a wrong understanding that individual progress depends on their own efforts.

Although we all have the concept of "self-effort", the most successful way to improve ourselves is relying on others, to imitate others as learning model.

If you want to get a new skill or breaking a bad habit, look for those who want to do the same thing, and arrange regular meeting with him. You can also join the online learning community, discussion groups or courses. Through empathy, success stories, and attention, “Yes, you can...” the establishment of confidence and determination to overcome the setbacks, the adoption of new acceleration behavior. You can also set up a circle of friends to help each other.

The most important thing is that you on the success of each other have a sense of belonging, this power will bring change.