2016年1月7日 星期四

如何與失聯已久者恢復聯繫?

要和某位久未聯繫的人恢復接觸,尤其是當你想要請求他給予一些協助時,會顯得很尷尬。
然而,要恢復聯繫,會比你想像中的容易許多,你也不需要帶著內疚的心理。
下一次,當你因為想要一份工作,或是想要換個職位,或是獲得別的機會,而想要與一位失聯已久的老同事或是老朋友恢復聯絡,試試以下的作法:
  1. 承認已經很久沒有聯絡了。向他正面承認已經很久沒有聯絡了,並解釋你在其間為何一直保持靜默。你可以試著這樣說:“自從上次與你會面後,有很長的時間沒有聯絡了,但是在這些年來,我經常想念你,並且一直希望能夠再和你聯繫上。”
  2. 解釋為什麼現在才恢復聯繫。你不需要隱瞞你的動機。如果你確實希望他作個工作推薦,或是給予其他的協助,直接了當的告訴他。
  3. 提出將作出回報。作出互惠能夠讓彼此的友好關係保持長久。你可以向他說你將很快的時間內,或是未來作出回報。
How to restore contact with those who have lost contact for a long time?
It's embarrassing to get back in touch with someone you haven't contacted for a long time, especially if you want to ask him for some help.
However, it's much easier to get back in touch than you think, and you don't need to be guilty.
Next time you want to get back in touch with an old colleague or old friend who has been out of touch for a long time because you want a job, a job change, or other opportunities, try the following:
  1. Admit that I haven't been in touch for a long time. Admit positively to him that you haven't been in touch for a long time, and explain why you've been silent during that time. You can try to say, "I haven't been in touch for a long time since I last met you, but over the years, I've missed you a lot and I've always wanted to be in touch with you again."
  2. Explain why contacts are resumed now. You don't need to hide your motives. If you really want him to make a job recommendation or give other assistance, tell him straightforwardly.
  3. The offer will pay off. Making reciprocity can keep a friendly relationship with each other for a long time. You can tell him that you will be rewarded soon, or in the future.

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