確保你的工作與老闆的期望一致

大多數人都有一個很難相處的老闆。也許老闆不信任你，也沒有對你的表現印象深刻。

雖然你可能會想把你的困難歸咎於你的老闆，但通常這樣的不匹配會發生在期望不一致的時候。

例如，也許當你的老闆想要一頁的摘要時，你交了一份10頁的報告，他們會解釋為你沒有認真聽的信號。

通過澄清老闆對你的期望，讓關係回到正軌。問一些直接的問題，比如：“你對我的優先考慮是什麼？”和“在做出决定時，我應該考慮什麼標準？”然後找出你的老闆更喜歡和你一起工作的作法，包括兩個人見面的時間，以及他們希望能夠通過電子郵件和電話聯繫到你。

現在知道這些期望，可以在未來挽救你的頭疼。

Make Sure Your Work Is Aligned with Your Boss’s Expectations

Most people have had a boss they struggled to get along with. Maybe the manager didn’t seem to trust you or wasn’t impressed with your performance.

While you may be tempted to blame the situation on your difficult boss, most often a mismatch like this happens when expectations aren’t aligned.

For example, perhaps you handed in a 10-page report when your boss wanted a one-page summary, and they interpreted it as a sign that you didn’t listen.

Get the relationship back on track by clarifying what your boss expects from you. Ask direct questions like, “What are your priorities for me?” and “What criteria should I take into account when making decisions?” And find out how your boss prefers to work with you, including how often you two should meet and when they expect you to be reachable by email and phone.

Knowing these expectations now could save you headaches in the future.

與同事達成一致，保持專注

如果你被那些容易分心的同事包圍，你很可能會分心。不要讓他們把你拉離你的待辦事項清單，設定界限。

你不必對此無禮，你可以說一些簡單的話：“我們以後再談下去好嗎？我想完成這份報告，然後我想更多地瞭解你的週末。

這保證了你的同事，你珍惜你的關係，同時加强你對不間斷工作時間的需求。你也可以和你的同事聯合起來抵制分散注意力。做一個約定，在某些時候，說，星期四下午你工作不要中斷：沒有電子郵件，社交媒體，鬆弛，或閒聊。

然後讓對方對尊重邊界負責。研究表明，當你告訴別人你想改變自己的作法時，你更有可能堅持到底。

Make a Pact with Your Colleagues to Stay Focused

If you’re surrounded by coworkers who get distracted easily, you’re likely to become distracted yourself. Instead of letting them pull you away from your to-do list, set boundaries.

You don’t have to be rude about it; you can say something simple like, “Can we continue this conversation later? I want to get this report done, and then I’d love to hear more about your weekend.”

This assures your coworker that you value your relationship while reinforcing your need for uninterrupted work time. You could also join forces with your colleagues to resist distractions together. Make a pact that during certain times — say, Thursday afternoons — you’ll work without interruptions: no email, social media, Slack, or chit-chatting.

Then hold each other accountable for respecting the boundaries. Research shows that when you tell someone else that you want to reform your ways, you’re more likely to follow through.

工作的父母，把注意力集中到你正在過的日常生活中去

我們都知道正念可以緩解壓力，但是當你是一個工作的父母時，很難找到時間去適應任何事情——即使是10分鐘的冥想。

幸運的是，你可以把注意力集中在忙碌的日常生活中。每天花幾分鐘寫下你每天的活動：送孩子們上學，停下來喝咖啡，通勤上班等等。

接下來，考慮何時適合做正念練習。例如，在早晨喝一杯咖啡的時候，在第一次啜飲之前先休息一下，聞到香味，感覺杯子的熱量，然後進行三次有意識的呼吸。

同樣地，每次你坐在電腦前，你都可以閉上眼睛，注意到脚在地板上的感覺，感覺到你呼出的氣息。找到這些小而重要的時刻對你和你的家人都是有益的。

Working Parents, Incorporate Mindfulness into Tasks You’re Already Doing

We all know that mindfulness can ease stress, but when you’re a working parent, it feels hard to find the time to fit in anything — even 10 minutes of meditation.

Luckily, you can build mindfulness into your busy routine. Spend a few minutes writing down the activities you do each day: drop the kids at school, stop for coffee, commute to work, and so on.

Next, consider where mindfulness can fit. For example, with your morning cup of coffee, create a quick routine where you pause before the first sip, smell the aroma, feel the heat of the mug, and take three intentional breaths.

Similarly, each time you sit down at your computer, you can close your eyes, notice the sensation of your feet on the floor, and feel your breath come in and out. Finding these small but essential moments will benefit both you and your family.

在承諾應聘之前，先瞭解公司的文化是否適合你

在評估一份工作時，重要的是要知道你是否能勝任新公司的工作。但它是很難在面試過程中就可以得到的關於這個組織文化的觀點。

在你承諾接受這份工作之前，找一些對這組織及其文化有客觀、公正的看法的人。他們可能是以前的雇員或與公司合作的其他人員，如顧問、承包商或供應商。

邀請他們出去喝杯咖啡，然後說“我正試圖更全面地瞭解這公司的文化”，然後問這樣的問題：這個組織喜歡什麼樣的工作？它如何成功？什麼樣的人在這個組織做得好？什麼樣的人離開？如果可以的話，找出為什麼你要更換的人已經不在了。他們繼續前進了嗎？還是升職？

在你决定提交之前，你可以收集的任何資訊都會給你一個內部人士的觀點。

Before Taking a Job, Learn Whether the Company’s Culture Is Right for You

When evaluating a job offer, it’s important to know whether you’ll fit in at the new company. But it can be hard to get an unvarnished view of an organization’s culture during the interview process.

Before you take the job, find people with objective, unbiased opinions of the organization and its culture. They may be former employees or others who work with the company, such as consultants, contractors, or suppliers.

Invite them out for coffee and say something like, “I’m trying to get a fuller picture of the company culture.” Then ask questions such as: What is this organization like to work with? Where is it succeeding? What kinds of people do well in this organization? What kinds of people leave? If you can, find out why the person you’re replacing is no longer there. Did they move on? Or get promoted?

Any information you can gather will give you an insider’s perspective before you decide to commit.

當你遠程工作時，在家和工作之間設定界限

當你在家工作的時候，偷偷地去洗一堆衣服看起來並不是什麼大不了的事。但是沒有界限，你的一天很可能會感到混亂和支離破碎。

假裝你在辦公室，給自己一個結構。設定“辦公時間”（例如上午9點到晚上6點），然後决定什麼時候是不能接受的。

問問自己，“如果我在辦公室，我會在白天做這項工作嗎？”如果答案是否定的，那麼在設定時間之前或之後進行活動。

家務、差事和和朋友在一起的時間都應該發生在工作之外。當然，在你的午休時間接到朋友的電話，或者處理緊急任務，比如緊急汽車修理可能是很好的。但這些應該是例外，而不是規則。

When You Work Remotely, Set Boundaries Between Home and Job

When you’re working from home, sneaking in a load of laundry may not seem like a big deal. But without boundaries, your day is likely to feel chaotic and fragmented.

Give yourself structure by pretending you’re at the office. Set up “office hours” (9 AM to 6 PM, for example), and decide what is and isn’t acceptable to do during that time.

Ask yourself, “If I was in the office, would I do this task during the day?” If the answer is no, do the activity before or after your set hours.

Household chores, errands, and spending time with friends should all happen outside of work. Sure, it’s probably fine to take a call from a friend during your lunch break, or handle an urgent task like an emergency car repair. But these should be exceptions, not the rule.

如何應對過度傲慢的老闆？

影響你工作滿意度的因素很多。這些因素之一是你的直接上司。換句話說，你的老闆和你的工作滿意度有很大關係。雖然壞老闆長期以來很少成功，而且經常被取代，但專橫的老闆們可能會有可以交付成果的歷史，而因此贏得了他的上司的尊敬。

幸運的是，有一些行之有效的策略或技巧可以幫助你的工作環境盡可能的好。

1.    關注在最終結果

記住，應對一個傲慢的老闆的最大重點，是激勵他的行為產生最終的結果。最有可能的是，一個苛刻的老闆可以為你們共同服務的公司，專注於提供結果。你應該把重點放在你的職位上可以做出卓越貢獻。如果你是做銷售的，你需要專注於提供優質的客戶服務，產生盈利收入。

如果你發現你的重點是避免或安撫你的老闆，而非專注在服務客戶，那麼你會因為業績不佳，而受到紀律處分或被解僱。

2.   交付成果

按照提示# 1，當你做出期望結果時，神奇的事情就發生了。原來難相處的老闆似乎更容易相處和工作。你也會更喜歡每天早上去辦公室，而你的工作能力也提高了。

會發生這個神奇的原因是，除非你的老闆是一個可怕的上司，他當你做出超過了你的職位的成績，他沒有什麼理由給你困難的時間。可以讓自己成為公司不可或缺的人，很少像那些整日擔心會被公司解僱的人一般，花許多的時間在老闆的辦公室裏。

3.   避免加入對公司抱怨的小圈子

和同事討論你對老闆有多討厭可能會讓你感覺好一些，但卻不能解决任何問題。大多數抱怨的討論充滿了責備，否定和沒有生產力，是浪費時間的談話，沒有什麼價值的實現。任何在工作時間（甚至下班後）花費的時間都不能避免你交付結果的能力，並讓你可以產生你最終的結果。當然，加入一個發牢騷的小圈子會給你一些支持和與你的同事建立聯系，但是，你需要專注於你的工作，而不僅是交朋友。

要記住的另一件事是，問問你自己，抱怨你的老闆，可以得到什麼？每個人做的每件事都是有原因的。

4.   設定自己的期望

失去自我激勵的一個絕對方法就是交出你的個人權力。如果你按照別人的期望來度過每一天，你對工作的熱情（甚至是你的生活）會慢慢地但肯定會减弱。

當老闆忽視了員的工作目標和個人的期望時，他的工作就會愈發地困難和充滿挑戰。若是你必須將注意力轉移到讓你的老闆高興，而遠離可以讓你專注於提供最好的客戶服務，你很快就會失去你的熱情，你的焦點。

當這樣的情況發生時，不要怪你的不合理的老闆。這是你自己的錯誤。

5.    和老闆面對面地談談

新手或不成熟的員工往往不願意與上司進行坦誠的面對面的交談。他們擔心如果他們“推回”對自己認為不公平的政策或工作條件，他們的工作就會受到威脅。對於那些有“壞老闆”的人，他們可能是正確的。然而，對於那些為面對專橫或不合理的上司工作的人來說，面對面地面地交談，對他們的職業生涯可能是最好的作法。

傲慢的老闆往往是過度專注的“A”型員工，他們的人際關係能力很弱。他們可能不知道他們的行動是如何直接影響到對他做直接報告的員。當一個員工有勇氣，以尊重和專業地，討論他的行為如何對員工產生負面影響時，上司會得到直接的回饋，否則他們可能永遠也不會有認知。根據他們的成熟和專業精神，這種回饋可能有助於他們改善自己的薄弱環節，並有能力提供他們被雇傭來交付的結果。

你需要什麼：

• 一張個人工作目標清單
• 一份工作職位描述
• 一份可以清楚描述你應該如何交付工作成果的商業計劃書
• 一個開放的心靈
• 正面的激勵

How to deal with an overly arrogant boss?

There are many factors that affect your job satisfaction. One of these factors is your direct supervisor. In other words, your boss has a lot to do with your job satisfaction. Although bad bosses have been rarely successful and often replaced for a long time, bossy bosses may have a history of deliverables, which earns the respect of their bosses.

Fortunately, there are some effective strategies or techniques that can help your work environment be as good as possible.

1. Focus on the final results

Keep in mind that the most important thing to deal with an arrogant boss is to motivate his actions to produce the final results. Most likely, a demanding boss will be able to focus on delivering results for the company you work with. You should focus on your position where you can make outstanding contributions. If you are in sales, you need to focus on providing quality customer service and generating profitable income.

If you find that your focus is on avoiding or appeasing your boss rather than focusing on serving customers, you will be disciplined or fired for poor performance.

2. Delivery of results

According to Tip # 1, when you make the expected results, something magical happens. The formerly difficult bosses seem to get along and work more easily. You'd also like to go to the office every morning, and your ability to work has improved.

The magical reason for this is that unless your boss is a terrible supervisor, he has no reason to give you hard time when you outperform your position. You can make yourself indispensable to the company, rarely spend a lot of time in the boss's office, like those who worry about being fired from the company all day long.

3. Avoid joining a small circle of complaints about the company

Discussing with colleagues how much you hate your boss may make you feel better, but it doesn't solve any problems. Most complaint discussions are full of blame, denial and lack of productivity. They are time-consuming conversations with little value to achieve. Any time spent at work (or even after work) cannot avoid your ability to deliver results and allow you to produce your final results. Of course, joining a grumbling circle will give you some support and connect with your colleagues, but you need to focus on your work, not just making friends.

Another thing to remember is to ask yourself what you can get by complaining about your boss. Everything everyone does has a reason.

4. Set your expectations

One absolute way to lose self-motivation is to surrender your personal power. If you live each day according to the expectations of others, your enthusiasm for work (even your life) will slowly but surely diminish.

When the employer neglects the employee's goals and personal expectations, his work will become more difficult and challenging. If you have to turn your attention to making your boss happy and stay away from focusing on providing the best customer service, you will soon lose your enthusiasm and focus.

When this happens, don't blame your unreasonable boss. This is your own mistake.

5. Talk face to face with your boss

Novice or immature employees are often reluctant to have frank face-to-face conversations with their supervisors. They fear that if they "push back" policies or working conditions that they deem unfair, their jobs will be threatened. For those with bad bosses, they may be right. However, for those who work for an arbitrary or unreasonable boss, face-to-face conversation may be the best way to approach their career.

Arrogant bosses tend to be overly focused "A" employees who have weak interpersonal skills. They may not know how their actions directly affect the person who reports directly to him. When an employee has the courage to discuss, respectfully and professionally, how his behavior negatively affects his employees, the supervisor will get direct feedback, otherwise they may never know. Depending on their maturity and professionalism, this feedback may help them improve their weaknesses and provide the results they are hired to deliver.

What do you need?

• A list of personal work goals
• A job description
• A business plan that clearly describes how you should deliver work results
• An open mind
• Positive incentives

為了獲得時間去學習一門技能，說明它對公司有什麼好處

如果你想休息一段時間來培養一種新的技能——去參加一門課程，去參加一個靜修會，或者參加一個聯誼會，你需要向你的老闆提出一個强有力的建議。

首先考慮你想要學習的內容和企業的需要之間的關係。你的公司將如何從你的新技能中獲益？你能和你的團隊分享學習嗎？工作中有什麼問題可以通過訓練來解决嗎？

一旦你回答了這些問題，就準備和你的老闆交談。找出最好的和最壞的情况，並預見老闆會問你的問題。

你的經理可能不是核准這項請求的人，所以你要做功課來瞭解誰會參與這樣的決策，以及他們會關心什麼。你應該準備好向任何你需要的人說明你的觀點。

To Get Time Off to Learn a Skill, Show How It Will Benefit the Company

If you want time off from work to develop a new skill — by attending a class, going on a retreat, or participating in a fellowship — you need to make a strong case to your boss.

Start by considering the connection between what you want to learn and the needs of the business. How will your company benefit from your new skill? Can you share the learning with your team? Are there issues at work that you could solve as a result of the training?

Once you’ve answered these questions, prepare for the conversation with your boss. Plot out the best- and worst-case scenarios, and anticipate the questions your boss will ask you.

Your manager may not be the person who approves the request, so do your homework to understand who else is involved in the decision-making process, and what they care about. You should be ready to make the case to anyone you need to.

當你的工作經驗有限時，突出你的長處

當你在事業上起步，工作經驗有限時，獲得信譽是很困難的。在你證明自己是一名關鍵員工之前，你的同事不會把你看作是公司的重要組成部分。

以通過傳達你所帶來的價值來贏得同事們的尊敬。想想你的強項：你在哪些方面做得最好？你過去受到過什麼表揚？不要忘記考慮你的個人生活機會，因為你的成長與生活地獄或族群背景，你會擁有一些有用的見解。

例如，如果你是一個20歲左右的人，從事過一個市場研究項目，你可能會對如何問他人年齡有很好的提問技巧。這種依靠自己的經驗與做法可以成為建立公司信譽和積極進步的起點。

When Your Work Experience Is Limited, Highlight Your Strengths

When you’re starting out in your career, and have limited work experience, it can be tough to gain credibility. Your coworkers won’t see you as a crucial part of the organization until you prove yourself to be one.

Start earning your colleagues’ respect by conveying the value you bring. Think about your strengths: In which areas do you do your best work? What have you been praised for in the past? Don’t forget to consider your personal life—chances are you possess some useful insights because of your geographic or demographic background.

For example, if you’re a 20-something and working on a market research project, you may have fresh ideas about the best types of questions to ask people your age. This approach of relying on your strengths can be a starting point to building credibility and positive regard in the organization.