開會不要遲到

大家是否有感覺，經常在就要開始開會時，會接到預備來開會的某人會打電話或發來簡訊說他耽擱了，會遲到。儘管這人可能客氣表示抱歉，但是實際上就是耽擱了許多一起與會者的時間。更糟糕的是，會議時間被因此壓縮了，使得會議討論的效果受到很大的影響。

如果計算與會者的名目成本，再考慮開會必須做出的決策影響，這樣因為有人開會遲到，而發生的總成本，是非常巨大的。

即使在如今科技進步的時代，準時開會還是很重要的。這起碼讓你可以關注，重視什麼才是真正重要的事項。

最重要的，準時與會，可以表現出你對他人的尊重。

Don't be late for the meeting

Do you have the feeling, often begins at the meeting, someone will call or send text messages that he delayed, and will be late. Although this may politely said sorry, but in fact it wastes many other participants’ time together. What is worse, the meeting time is so compression, the conference to discuss effect greatly affected.

If you calculate the participants' nominal costs, and consider the impact of decisions that must be made at meetings, so that the total cost of meeting of someone’s late is enormous.

Even in today's age of technological progress, meeting on time is still important. At least, you can focus on what is really important.

The most important thing to do is to show your respect for others on time.

不必離職，就可發展第二事業

你是否夢想轉行，卻擔心跳槽成本太高，成功的可能性似乎太遙遠了？

與其耗在你目前的工作，又一時難以離職，轉換跑道，而逐漸失去工作熱情，不如同時做兩件事：在追求新事業的同時保持現在的工作。

如果你能用新的追求來提高現有的角色，你就不必放弃睡眠。例如，如果你有興趣成為一名演講人，在你現時的公司裏尋找建立演講技巧的方法。主動承擔下一個全公司的簡報，或在會議上加入一個討論小組。

當你跟隨你的好奇心，你就更有可能實現夢想，更滿足您想要的角色感覺。

Developing second career without leaving your current job

If you dream of a career change, but worry about the high cost of job hopping, the possibility of success seems too far away?

Instead of wasting time and not able leaving your current job for turning the runway, and losing your job enthusiasm, it's better to do two things at the same time: keep your current job while you're pursuing your new career.

If you can use the new pursuit to improve the existing role, you don't have to give up sleep. For example, if you are interested to become a speaker, you can look for a way to establish the speaking skills in your present company. Take a company presentation, or join a discussion group at the meeting.

When you follow your curiosity, you are more likely to fulfill your dream and fulfill your desired role.

面對艱難的談話，準備多種方案

當你需要面對一個緊張的對話，不要試圖改變它。你不知道討論將如何進行，所以提前考慮幾個可能的方案。

如果你的對手的生氣和哭泣？如果他們生氣怎麼辦？如果你被打斷，或需要快速完成的談話嗎？

當然，你不能寫每一個可能的劇本，但盡可能多考慮將有助於確保你不要鑽牛角尖，失去冷靜。

您可能還希望找到一個值得信任的同事，您可以在其中扮演一些場景。嘗試不同的方法，測試出可能用於各種可能性的短語。然後問你的角色扮演的伴侶給你回饋。

Prepare a variety of programs during difficult conversations

When you need to face a stressful conversation, don't try to change it. You don't know how the discussion will go, so consider several possible options ahead of schedule.

What if your opponent's angry and crying? What if they're angry? What to do if you're interrupted or need a quick finish?

Of course, you can't write every possible scenario, but to consider as much as possible will help ensure that you don't get lost calm.

You may also want to find a trusted colleague, and you can make some role play scenes in them. Try different methods may be used to test all possible phrases. Then ask your partner to give you feedback.

從家庭回到職場，如何面對HR招聘官？

當你在家裡擔任父母，照顧小孩后，預備重返職場，經常要面臨公司的HR招聘官會質問你，“你真的想來上班嗎？”，或者，“你上班，家裡的孩子怎麼辦？”這樣的問題的潛台詞，就是“難道家裡有小孩，不會妨礙到你上班工作嗎？”

遇到這樣的問題，你除了必須表示你對這份工作的熱情，以及相信你可以做出貢獻外，也必須解釋你做了哪些妥善的安排？例如，你的孩子已經開始上學了，你可以白天上班，或是，你請好了保姆來照顧孩子，或是，孩子長大了，可以照顧自己了。

這些回答，可以顯示你將會是一名積極進取的員工，不會因為個人的家庭因素而分心影響工作表現。

How do you response to the HR officer when you return to work from family?

When you play as family parent with child caring, now ready to return to work, often have to face the company's HR recruiter asks you, "Do you really want to go to work?", or, "How do you go to work and leaving children at home?" Subtext of such question is "Don't family children will not interfere with your work?"

Encounter such question, you must show your enthusiasm for the job, and make him believes you can make a contribution.

You must also explain what you arranged? For example, your child has started school, you can work during the day, or you arranged a baby-sister to take care children during your working hours, or, your children grow up, and can take care of themselves.

These answers show that you will be an aggressive employee and will not be distracted by personal family influences.

賈詡的聰明

賈詡的聰明，明就明在他洞悉人性，總能看透對方的心思。

據《三國志 賈詡傳》，賈詡在吧李傕和郭汜這兩隻“西北狼”引進長安後，並沒有同流合污，而是擇機離開了他們。離開長安後，賈詡先是投靠段煨，後是投靠張繡。離開段煨的時候，有人問他，說段煨對先生那麼好，先生為什麼還要走？賈詡說，段煨這個人的特點是多疑。他對我客氣，正說明他對我防範，怕我取而代之，因此總有一天會對我下手。現在我離開他，他一定如釋重負。段煨是個很孤立的人，希望能有外援，必定厚待我的家人。張繡沒有謀士，也希望我能去。這樣，我自己和我家人就都安全了。後來，事實正如賈詡為別人出謀劃策，總是料事如神，秘密就在這裡。很多人上《三國演義》的當，以為世界上真有什麼“錦囊妙計”，其實那裡有？料事如神者，實際上是料人如神。所以，琢磨計謀是沒有用的，你還是琢磨人性吧！

知人者也自知。賈詡投靠曹操後，很清楚自己的身份地位，知道像自己這樣多謀善斷的人，對任何君主都既是利用物件又是危險人物，何況還是個“叛徒”？因此，為人處世都十分低調。他開始變得沉默寡言，很少出謀劃策，也不呼朋引伴，就連為子女締結婚姻也不攀附豪門（詡自以太祖舊臣，而策謀深長，懼見猜疑，闔門自守，退無私交，男女嫁娶，不結高門），尾巴夾的比誰都緊。賈詡真是聰明人。

(抄自：易中天【品三國】上，第八章，P80)

後記：不是每個人的性格，都適合當帝王、CEO, 有的人的個性天生適合擔任幕僚、參謀，或頂多擔任總經理。賈詡、魯迅、諸葛亮，這三位丞相/總經理在史書上的地位，並不比他們的上司CEO差。

不要老闆巨細靡遺的干預，澄清彼此的期望

你會不會經常感覺到你的老闆在做你的工作，越廚代庖，因而妨礙你能夠把自己的工作做好？

如果你的老闆真踩著你的腳，妨礙你，你就要和他討論一下彼此對角色的期望。你的老闆甚至不知覺他自己在做什麼。

你可以問他：“您沒有別的事要忙嗎？”給他一個很溫和的提醒，或是你可以因而得到他給你很重要的回饋意見。

如果你的老闆正在對你的工作越廚代庖，很可能是你的老闆正試圖解決一些你自己都不知覺的問題。

如果這樣溫和的提醒還不能達到效果，那麼，就開門見山的指出老闆這樣的行為構成的後果，了解他究竟是故意的還是無意的？然後，你們可以坦然的一起解決問題。

To Get Your Boss to Stop Micromanaging, Clarify Expectations

Do you always feel your boss doing your job, the more you can cook instead, thus preventing their own work to do?

If your boss really steps on your feet and gets in the way, you should discuss the expectations of each other with your role. Your boss doesn't even know what he's doing.

You can ask him, "Do you have anything else to do?" Give him a gentle reminder, or you can get an important feedback from him.

Micromanaging might be your boss’s way of trying to fix a problem that you weren’t aware existed. If nothing else is working, be direct: Point out the consequences of their behavior, unintended or not, and then try problem solving together.

建立一個使你的工作更有目的性的藍圖

你很容易活在一片混亂的日子中，無法清晰地說出你所做的事情。而保持專注和高效的最有效的策略之一是為你工作的每一個時刻帶來目標。

首先要理解並闡明你的日常工作是如何與你的個人目標和組織目標相聯系的。然後使用這些資訊創建一個藍圖，在其中您可以確定哪些任務是關鍵的，哪些可以等待。為每個任務做時間估算，製定你的工作，這樣你就知道你應該集中精力在什麼時候。

最後，說出會讓你分心的事情，並瞭解它們的根本原因，這樣你就可以抓住自己，並把注意力集中到優先順序上的那些任務上。

知道你在做什麼，如何能讓你的工作更有意義？

Create a blueprint that will make your work more purposeful

It's easy to live on a chaotic day, unable to say exactly what you're doing. One of the effective strategies to stay focused and productive is to bring your goals into every moment of your work.

The first is to understand and clarify your daily work is how to relate to your personal goals and organizational goals. Then create a blueprint for the use of the information, in which you can determine, which task is the key, which can wait. Make time for each task estimation for your work. Then, you'll see what priority item you should concentrate on.

Finally, talk about things that distract you and understand the root causes of them, so that you can catch yourself and focus on those tasks at your priority level.

Knowing what you're doing, how can you make your job more meaningful?

不要指望你的老闆來解决所有的衝突

要將團隊中的衝突問題扔給老闆來解決，很容易。

但是，如果是因為不能就如何安排優先項目或是要在哪一個期限完成工作達成一致，而有衝突，何不問問實際項目負責人，按照步驟來逐一討論？是否所需要的資訊都完備了？各種可能的方案都經過充分討論了？

如果你能解决問題而不總是涉及上級，這對每個人——你，你的同事，你的老闆都是有益的。

不要把衝突視為一種煩惱，它會導致焦慮和疏離感，但卻是成長的機會。讓團隊中的每個人公開討論任何分歧，然後建立正確的行為模型。平靜地與團隊分享你的想法，即使是在同事之間發生觀點歧異時，也不要相互指責。

最後，將你們之間達成的共識，與差異點，整理好，呈給你們的老闆，邀請他一起討論，看看是否思考不夠周圓？必要時，才請他裁奪。

Don't expect your boss to settle all conflicts

It's easy to drop a conflict problem in the team to the boss.

However, if it is not because of how to arrange project priority, or not agreed on a project completion date, and caused a conflict, why not ask the actual person in charge of the project. And, according to the steps to discuss and check to see if information needed ready or not? All possible plan options have been fully discussed?

It's good for everyone - you, your colleagues, your boss, if you can solve the problem without always involving the superior.

Don't put the conflict as a kind of trouble, it will cause anxiety and alienation, but it is a chance to grow. Let everyone in the team to publicly discuss any differences, and then establish the correct model of the behavior. Calmly to share your ideas with the team, even in view of differences between colleagues. Don’t finger point to each other.

Finally, consolidate your reached consensus and differences, submit to your boss and invite him to join discussion, to see if there is thoughtful consideration. Then, if necessary, ask him to make decision.