和你的員工做朋友，要有明確的界限

與為你工作的人交朋友是可能的，但你需要設定界限。

例如，有時你會知道一些會影響你朋友的資訊，但是如果你與朋友分享這些資訊是不恰當的。要讓友誼發揮作用，就必須對你能分享和不能分享的東西保持透明，並強調這是一個道德問題，而不是信任問題。

當敏感話題出現時，要清楚你在進行什麼樣的談話。比如，“讓我們以朋友的方式來討論這個”或者“這是我想提出的一個工作主題”。看看你和你的朋友是否想進行同樣的談話。你可能會說，“我想知道你的項目進展如何。我們現在能討論一下嗎？“。這樣，你就可以保持友誼，而不跨越任何界限。

To Be Friends with Your Employees, Set Clear Boundaries

It’s possible to be friends with someone who works for you, but you need to set boundaries.

For example, there may be times when you’re privy to information that will affect your friend, but it would be improper for you to share it. To make the friendship work, be transparent about what you can and can’t share, and emphasize that it’s a matter of ethics, not trust.

When sensitive topics come up, be clear about what kind of conversation you’re having. Say something like, “Let’s talk about this in friend mode” or “This is a work topic that I’d like to bring up.” And check that you and your friend want to have the same kind of conversation. You might say, “I want to find out how things are going with your project. Can we have that discussion now?” This way, you can maintain your friendship without crossing any lines.

在艱難的談話中保持冷靜

緊張的談話會帶來很多負面情緒，讓你感覺像一座活火山。為了防止爆發並控制你的情緒，身體要腳踏實地。最好的方法之一就是站起來走動，這會啟動你大腦的思維部分。

如果你和你的對手坐在桌子旁，突然站起來似乎很尷尬，你可以說，“我覺得我需要拉伸。介意我稍微走動一下嗎？如果感覺不舒服，你可以做一些小的體力活動，比如交叉兩個手指或者把你的脚牢牢地放在地板上，並注意到它的感覺。

正念專家稱這些行為為“錨定”，無論你做什麼，都要專注於你的身體存在，你的感官將幫助你腳踏實地，度過艱難的談話。

Stay Calm During a Tough Conversation by Grounding Yourself

Having a tense conversation brings up a lot of negative emotions, leaving you feeling like an active volcano. To prevent an outburst and stay in control of your emotions, physically ground yourself in your environment.

One of the best ways to do this is to stand up and walk around, which activates the thinking part of your brain. If you and your counterpart are seated at a table, and suddenly standing up seems awkward, you might say, “I feel like I need to stretch. Mind if I walk around a bit?” If that doesn’t feel comfortable, you can do small physical things like crossing two fingers or placing your feet firmly on the floor and noticing what it feels like.

Mindfulness experts call these actions “anchoring.” Whatever you can do to focus on your physical presence and your senses will help you stay grounded and get through that tough conversation.

做一個要下班的例行動作，讓自己進入下班心態

許多人對於要下班，離開辦公室，是很困難的。總是難以停下工作，告訴自己下班時間到了。

如果你能夠給自己安排一個例行動作，將會幫助你轉換進入下班心態。例如，鎖上辦公桌、起身向同事或老闆招呼致意，最有力的是打電話給家人，交待自己即將回家了。

把這樣的動作例行化，就如每天必須做的儀式。會讓你進入下班了的心態，將工作拋諸腦後，夜間時間是屬於家人的。

一開始，你可以在預備下班前30分鐘，讓鬧鈴響，提醒你趕快結束手上的工作。讓自己尊重作息安排，可以同時提高你的工作效率與兼顧到健康生活。

Make a routine action to let you switch into an off-duty mindset

Many people have difficulty getting off work and leaving the office. It's always hard to stop working and tell yourself it's time for off work. 

If you can arrange a routine for yourself, it will help you switch into an off-duty mindset. For example, lock your desk, stand up and greet your co-worker or boss. The most powerful thing is to call your family and tell them you're coming home. 

Make it routine, like a ritual you have to do every day. It's going to get you out of work, put your work behind you, and the night time belongs to your family. 

At first, you can let the alarm ring 30 minutes before you get ready for get off work and remind you to finish your work. By respecting your schedule, you can both improve your productivity and take care of your healthy life

每週安排自我反省時間

當你以行事曆安排了工作項目，並且電子郵箱里充滿了信件，你很難找出空擋時間來進行思考。但是要改進你的想法，你需要作自我反省思考。這可以幫助你檢驗你的假設和將一些資訊聯結起來。

你如何有時間進行反省思考?這取決于你的個人時間與作息習慣。你可以安排在週一上午，舉例，進行思考，然後再安排這週的其他工作。或是，你比較傾向于一周三天，各以60分鐘來反省思考。你也可以在散步的時候，或是喝咖啡的時候來反省思考。

無論你如何安排，要確保這是固定時間進行的，而且要不受電話、郵件或其他會議的干擾。

Schedule Time for Reflective Thinking Every Week

When you’ve got a packed calendar and an overflowing inbox, it’s tough to find time to think. But improving the quality of your ideas requires unstructured, reflective thinking.

This activity helps you examine your assumptions and draw connections between pieces of information.

How can you make the time to do it? It depends on your individual schedule and rhythm.

You might build reflection into a single day, designating Monday mornings, for example, as your time to think and organize the rest of your week. Or you might spread the time over the week, carving out 60 minutes on three days. You can also combine your reflective thinking with another activity, such as taking an afternoon walk or drinking a morning cup of coffee.
Whatever strategy you choose, make sure the time is a regularly scheduled and protected event on your calendar, uninterrupted by emails, calls, or meetings.

以正念練習來集中注意力

有時候，把工作精力集中在工作上是不可能的。正念可以幫助你。

那些有正念的人比較能夠集中注意力，比較不會分心。

你可以通過每天安排三次10分鐘的正念訓練來發展自己的日常生活。把所有的東西都放在一邊--關上你的電子郵件和辦公室或會議室的門——把你的注意力全部放在你的呼吸上。不要試圖控制它，只需感覺到充分的呼吸和充分的呼吸。當然，你的大腦仍然可能會漫遊-這是正常的。不要因為這些失控的想法而判斷自己。只需引導你的注意力回到你的呼吸，然後從下一個呼吸開始。這是把你的注意力集中在呼吸上的行為，它強化了大腦的注意力集中，最終幫助你更好地控制注意力。

Focus on the mindfulness practice

Sometimes it is impossible to concentrate on work. Mindfulness can help you.

Those who are mindful are more focused and less distracted.

You can develop your daily life by arranging three 10 minutes of mindfulness training every day. Put everything aside - close your email and the office or the door of the conference room - put all your attention on your breath. Don't try to control it, just feel full breathing and full breathing. Of course, your brain can still roam - it's normal. Don't judge yourself because of these out of control ideas. Just lead your attention back to your breath, and start with the next breath. This is the act of focusing your attention on breathing, which strengthens the brain's concentration and ultimately helps you to better control your attention.

不要讓壓力導致錯誤的決定

當你處於壓力之下時，很難清晰地思考。你的血壓和心跳加快，腎上腺素和皮質醇充斥你的身體，你的求生本能會影響你的決定。為了避免在壓力下做出錯誤的決定，注意你的身體症狀。

我們都有一個內在的“瞭望台”來幫助我們監控我們的反應。進入你大腦的那一部分，尋找身體的感覺或情緒，這表明你的壓力正在上升：你的胃緊繃，或焦慮或恐慌的感覺。

通過注意這些反應，你可以避免魯莽行事。例如，當你收到一封煩人的郵件，你發現你很生氣，你可以暫緩回復直到你冷靜下來。在行動之前，用你的“注意”來識別這些衝動。

Don’t Let Stress Lead to Bad Decisions

It’s hard to think clearly when you’re under stress. Your blood pressure and heart rate rise, adrenaline and cortisol flood your body, and your survival instincts kick in — all of which interfere with decision making. To avoid making bad decisions when you’re stressed, pay careful attention to your physical symptoms.

We all have an inner “lookout” that helps us monitor our reactions. Tap into that part of your mind and look for physical sensations or emotions that indicate your stress level is rising: a tightness in your stomach or a feeling of anxiety or panic.

By noticing these reactions, you can hold yourself back from acting rashly. For example, when you get an annoying email, and you notice that you’re irritated, you can hold off on replying until you’ve calmed down. Use your “lookout” to recognize these impulses before you act on them.

面對自戀者，表現親切些, 可以讓他節制

通常人們不喜歡與自戀者相處。自戀者或是本身容貌出眾，或是才能過人，或是擁有堅實的背後支持等他人不具備的條件，因而容易表現自戀、自負、傲人、自私、說話誇大、對他人不屑一顧。但是，他也可能因為內心有某些貧乏、缺失，有自卑心理，而刻意誇大其他他可以突出的特質。

自戀者也常是團隊里表現傑出者，是公司的明星人物，容易獲得佔有特殊資源，或是優先得到大客戶的特權。他也因而愛惜羽毛，不願意紓尊降貴。

人們會認為這樣的人會提高團隊的工作標準，讓別人工作困難。或是，人們必須分攤他不願意承擔的細微瑣事。他人在他面前，有被低視、被歧視的不舒服感覺。

然而，自戀者也因而容易受到同僚嫉妒、排擠。人們甚至會聯合起來，擺出對他不歡迎的態度。他也因而容易對別人不信任，防衛心理強。

因而，自戀的明星，也經常心理脆弱，感到心靈受傷害，成為團隊里不穩定者。他提出辭職，或要求轉換跑道的可能性比較高。

如果你是這位自戀明星的老闆，或是同事，或是想要幫助他的朋友（當然，你也可以選擇避開他），你不妨試著對他表現得親切些。

你可以這樣對他說：“我們很幸運有你參加了這個項目，尤其是有些人不夠清楚你可以在這個項目作出的貢獻。”先表現出對他的肯定與尊重。接著，你要引導他和團隊成員可以協作。將你安排參與項目的其他人與所分配的工作與工作能力，介紹給他，讓他知道妳對項目組里每個人的評價，并尊重妳的權威與尊重其他人。

另外，你可以安排自戀明星多了解其他人的貢獻與在項目中扮演的關鍵環節，以及所解決的問題。讓她體認自己不能缺少別人的協作，因而可以收斂她的自大行為。

In the face of narcissism, showing friendliness can keep him abstinence

Usually people do not like to get along with narcissism. Narcissists are either good-looking, talented or have solid backing and other people do not have the conditions, so it is easy to show narcissism, conceit, arrogance, selfishness, exaggeration, disdain for others. However, he may also deliberately exaggerate other characteristics that he can highlight because of some inner poverty, lack and inferiority complex.

Narcissists are often outstanding performers in the team. They are the stars of the company. They are easy to get special resources or privileges to get customers first. He also loved feather and was not willing to help him.

People will think that such a person will improve the working standard of the team and make others work hard. Or, people must share the trivial details that he does not want to undertake. Others feel uncomfortable and discriminated against him in front of him.

However, narcissism is also vulnerable to jealousy and exclusion from peers. People will even unite to show their unwelcome attitude towards him. He also easily distrusted others and had strong defense mentality.

As a result, narcissistic stars are often mentally fragile, feel hurt and become unstable in the team. He offered to resign or demand a higher possibility of changing the runway.

If you are the narcissistic star's boss, colleague, or friend who wants to help him (and you can choose to avoid him, of course), you might as well try to be kind to him.

You can say to him, "We are very lucky to have you on this project, especially if some people are not clear about your contribution to this project." First show his affirmation and respect. Next, you should guide him and his team members to work together. Introduce to him the other people you have assigned to participate in the project and the work and ability you have assigned. Let him know what you think of everyone in the project team and respect your authority and others.

In addition, you can arrange narcissistic stars to learn more about other people's contributions and key aspects of the project, as well as the problems they solve. Let him recognize that she can not lack the cooperation of others, so that he can restrain his arrogant behavior.

在家工作時表現出你的承諾

當您是一名在職家長時，靈活地遠程工作是很有幫助的。但是你辦公室的同事可能會懷疑你做了多少事。為了幫助老闆和同事欣賞你的工作，提供一個小而清晰的訊號，表明你的承諾和工作熱情很强。

例如，你可能在早上第一件事就發電子郵件來表明你已經起床了。或者，讓你的同事知道你已經仔細閱讀了他們的檔案：“小王，感謝這一點——第六頁的資料將有助於我們的季度審查過程。”你也可以在清晨或深夜打電話給其他時區的同事。試著每隔幾周去辦公室一次，或者在可能的時候參加特別會議。

這些策略將幫助你表現出你是多麼的勤奮和努力。

Show your commitment when working at home

It is helpful to work flexibly and remotely when you are a working parent. But your colleagues in your office may wonder how much you have done. To help your boss and colleagues appreciate your job, provide a small and clear signal that shows your commitment and enthusiasm.

For example, you may email the first thing in the morning to show that you have got up. Or let your colleagues know that you have read their files carefully: "Mr. Wang, thank you for that. The sixth page data will help our quarterly review process." You can also call colleagues in other time zones early in the morning or late at night. Try to go to the office every few weeks, or attend a special meeting at a possible time.

These strategies will help you show how hard and hard you are.