每個人都會感到沮喪。當你沮喪的時候，你是如何期待朋友的？如果他來到你面前理性地審視你的失敗，或者是為你喝彩，或者說，“沒關係，不要在意。”你會被感動嗎？
儘管如此，他走過來拍拍你的肩膀，靜靜地坐在你旁邊說：“我知道你的感受。”
哪種管道能讓你感覺更好？
當一個朋友失望時，不要急於理智地與他溝通，不要急於幫助他重新開始，也不要勸說他不要把失敗當回事。你只需要表現你的同情心，這樣他就不會感到孤獨和無助。
他有足够的時間來回顧他失敗的原因，並找到重新開始的動力和方法。
When others are frustrated, give compassion
Everyone
will be frustrated. When you are frustrated, how do you expect friends? If he
comes to you to rationally review your failures, either to cheer you on, or to
say, [It's all right, don't care. Will you be moved?
Still,
he comes over and pats you on the shoulder, sits quietly beside you and says, “I
know how you feel.”
Which
way can make you feel better?
When
a friend is disappointed, don't be anxious to communicate rationally with him,
don't be anxious to help him start again, and don't persuade him not to take
failure seriously. You just need to show your sympathy so that he will not feel
lonely and helpless.
He has plenty of time to review the reasons for his failure and find the
impetus and way to start again.
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