去弄清楚你想要從你預備交往的對象聽到什麼，以及你如何去讓他對你有好印象，
這似乎是好的人際交往策略。但是，過度吹捧自己與過度諂媚會有負面反效果的。
為什麼？因為，當你刻意地要留給別人深刻印象時，會提高你的焦慮，而且讓你失去了獨立自主的空間。
所以，不要為了取悅他人而改變自己的行為。相對的，清楚說你的主張。說你有興趣的主題。問你好奇的問題。
不要太過在意別人對你的印象。但是，你也不要太過壓迫別人接受你的觀點。建立和你志同道合的朋友圈。
輕鬆的和你有共同興趣的朋友交流，自然可以讓別人對你有好印象。
Be yourself in interpersonal communication
To
figure out what you want to
hear from the person you’re about to socialize with, and how can you make him feel about you,
seems like a good interpersonal strategy.. However, excessive flattery can be counterproductive.
Why?
Because when you deliberately want to impress others, will increases your anxiety,
and makes you lose your independence.
So,
don't change your behavior to please others. In contrast, state your opinion clearly. About the subject you are interested in. Ask your curious question.
Don't
take your impression too seriously. But don't push others too hard to. accept
your point of view. Build a circle of
like-minded friends.
Easily communicate with friends who share your interests, and naturally make others have a good impression of
you.
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