不要讓對你的批評遮住了對你的讚揚

當我們獲得老闆或同事給予回饋是，我們通常會比較關注于被批評的內容。這些都是我們必須應該對這些進行改善。而總是膠著于這些負面批評會讓人耗弱的。

你同時要確信你也聽到了一些對你的正面讚揚：

1. 寫下你聽到的讚揚。當你收到人家的回饋是，不要只計較對你的負面批評， 也把你所聽到的正面讚揚，如此你可以知道你做對了哪些事？這樣做，也可以讓你知道給你正面讚揚的人對你是重要的。
2. 深入了解給你的讚揚。你可以詢問了解你獲得讚揚的真實理由。例如，你可以詢問：“我很高興聽到你認為我們提供的服務對你的服務有幫助。你可以告訴我們哪些對你幫助最大嗎？你是如何認知到我們的服務可以幫助到你？”
3. 相信這樣的讚揚。自我懷疑會讓自己懷疑所獲得的讚揚。不要讓自我懷疑來低估你的能力，以及可以獲得的正面讚揚。即使你可能一開始不相信，但是你還是可以試著相信你確實可以做到。

Don't let your criticism cover your praise

When we get feedback from our boss or colleagues, we tend to focus more on what is being criticized. These are the things we have to do to improve them. And always sticking to these negative criticisms can make people weak.

You also have to be sure that you've heard some positive praise for you:

1. Write the compliments you heard. When you get feedback from others, don't just care about your negative criticisms, and praise the positive ones you heard, so you can know what you've done right. Do so can also let you know that the person who gives you the positive compliment is important to you.
2. Deep understanding of your praise. You can ask for the real reasons for your praise. For example, you can ask: "I'm glad to hear that you think that the service we offer helps your service. Can you tell us about which of them help you the most? How do you realize that our service can help you?"
3. Believe such praise. Self-doubt will make you doubt the praise you've received. Don't let self-doubt underestimate your ability, and positive praise you can get. Even though you may not believe it at first, you can still try to believe that you can do it.