每個人都會有失意的時候。當你處於挫折失落時，你會如何期待朋友呢？如果他過來與你理性地檢討你的失敗原因，或是給你打氣加油，或是說：【沒事啦，不要在意。】你會感動嗎？
還是，他過來給你拍拍肩膀，安靜的坐在你旁邊陪伴你，說：【我了解你的感受。】
哪一種方式，比較讓你好受？
將心比心，當朋友失意的時候，不要急於與他做理性溝通，也不用急著要扶持他再出發，也不要勸他不要將失敗不當一回事。你只需要表現你的同情，讓他不致於感到孤獨無助。
他有的是時間再來檢討他失敗的原因，并找到重新出發的動力與途徑。
When others are frustrated, give compassion
Everyone
will be frustrated. When you are frustrated, how do you expect friends? If he
comes to you to rationally review your failures, either to cheer you on, or to
say, [It's all right, don't care. Will you be moved?
Still,
he comes over and pats you on the shoulder, sits quietly beside you and says, “I
know how you feel.”
Which
way can make you feel better?
When
a friend is disappointed, don't be anxious to communicate rationally with him,
don't be anxious to help him start again, and don't persuade him not to take
failure seriously. You just need to show your sympathy so that he will not feel
lonely and helpless.
He
has plenty of time to review the reasons for his failure and find the impetus
and way to start again.
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