處理失望情緒變得更好

失望是不可避免的和令人不快的——錯過晋昇、失敗的項目、糟糕的投資——但是你總能從中吸取教訓。

要建設性地處理你的下一次挫折，想想發生了什麼。從可避免的和無法控制的情况中區分可預見和可預防的情况。

沉思那些不適合你的事情——而你無法控制——只會讓你更加沮喪。

對於你可以處理不同的情况，用積極的作法來考慮：下一次你能做些什麼不同的事情？你能從你犯的錯誤中學到什麼教訓？提醒你自己生活中的進展，不要讓失望在你的大腦中扮演一個超大的角色。

這聽起來像一個陳詞濫調，但要保持挫折的角度-並嘗試讓它去。你可能會被誘惑去一遍一遍地在腦海中擺弄這種情形，但是全神貫注於它只會產生不必要的壓力。

Getting Better at Handling Disappointments

Disappointments are inevitable and unpleasant —­ a missed promotion, a failed project, a poor investment — but you can always learn something from them.

To constructively deal with your next setback, think through what happened. Distinguish situations that were predictable and preventable from those that were unavoidable and beyond your control.

Ruminating over something that didn’t go your way — and that you couldn’t control — will only frustrate you further.

For situations that you could have handled differently, consider them in positive terms: What can you do differently next time? What lessons can you learn from the mistakes you made? And remind yourself of what’s going well in your life, so you don’t let the disappointment take an outsize role in your brain.

It might sound like a cliché, but keep the setback in perspective — and try to let it go. You may be tempted to play the situation over and over in your head, but staying preoccupied with it will only create unnecessary stress.