當你愈有權勢,你愈有可能以為說些不當的話,沒有什麼不得了。
然而,即使是很有權勢的人,在開口前,還是得三思而後行。
當你考慮用權力說話時,考慮一下你是否對後果有實際的把握。權衡你對你所說的話和你所說的可能發生的事情有多大的信心,並决定你是否有足够的精力和韌性去收拾後果。你可能會對後果有所忌憚,因而寧願保持沉默,以策安全。
在你開口說任何話之前,想想以前說話的人,是如何被對待的。如果你決定還是要說出口,就要考慮當你被反擊、質疑時,你要如何辯駁。
然而,如果你選擇先保持沉默,人們又會如何想象你呢?有些事,無法長期躲避。
總之,說話要得體,要符合事實,要符合你的目的,要有策略。
Think about the consequences before you say something inappropriate
If you are a power person, it is likely that you may think that if you
say something inappropriate is nothing.
However, even a powerful person has to think twice before opening his
mouth.
When you think about talking with power, consider whether you are really
sure about the consequences. Weigh your confidence in what you say and what you
say may happen, and determine whether you have enough energy and toughness to
clear up the consequences. You may have the fear of consequences, and therefore
prefer to remain silent, to ensure safety.
Before you say anything, think of how the person you spoke before was
treated. If you decide to say what you want to say, consider how you react when
you are countered or challenged.
However, how do people imagine you if you choose to remain silent first?
There are things that cannot be avoided for a long time.
In a word, speak appropriately, conform to the facts, be consistent with
your purpose, and be tactful.
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