你不需要假裝自己沒有壓力，假裝自己一樣可以快樂生活。但是你必須將自己和遭遇的壓力區分開來。
這不代表你就沒有壓力了。這表示你對於壓力不會那麼情緒化，認知那是你生理上的自然反應。
與其想著“我受到壓迫”，不如想著“我有壓力”。這微小的認知差異，可以讓你退回一步，讓你有動力繼續往前進。
要有效做到這樣，你必須了解你的壓力來源。這樣的感覺是如何產生的？帶著好奇來探究你的壓力源，是誰造成你的壓力？你為何有這樣的負面反應? 並且問自己，我確實承受不住這樣的壓力嗎？我的回應方式，能夠讓我感覺比較好過，還是讓我更憂鬱？
認識清楚這些症狀，可以幫助你找到比較好的應對方式。
Knowing
your own pressure
You don't have to pretend that you don't
have pressure to pretend you are as happy as you are, but you have to distinguish
yourself from the stress.
It doesn't mean you have no pressure. It
means that you don't feel so emotional about the pressure. It's a natural
reaction to your physiology.
Instead of thinking about "I am
oppressed", I think "I have pressure". This tiny cognitive
difference can make you take a step back and let you have the power to continue
to move forward.
To do this effectively, you must understand
your source of stress. How do you feel this way? With curiosity, who can cause
your stress? Why do you have such negative reactions? And ask myself, do I
really can't stand the pressure? Can my response make me feel better or make me
more melancholy?
Knowing these symptoms can help you find a
better way to deal with it.
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